It happened: you met him on one app by dating, a nice feeling has been established and you have decided to meet, to get to know each other better. To the point that… you ended up in bed. The attraction was not just mental, but complete. And even on a physical level, there was a special chemistry.
And now? You wonder what the future scenarios could be, given that you are continuing to hear, and you don’t mind. But you can’t tell if it could be something more or if it could start a serious relationshipbecause you didn’t ask yourself the question. However…
“There are some signals that could direct you towards this option – he explains Mary G. Baccagliniprofession love coachbut also love influencers from almost 65,000 followers on Instagram – I mean not making the choice to seriously commit to a person, but at least understanding if there is a more marked and real interest on his part. Of course, these are valid signs even if you haven’t slept with that person yet. And above all, they may want to mean that he wants more, but it is not automatic anyway. But before indicating them, I would like to give some tips to avoid rushing things. Because we know, when things are going well and there’s unexpected fertile ground for something more to grow, we women tend to run. And instead, we should just experience things as they arriveas they come.”
And then, here 4 tips by the love coach in order not to rush the situation and to follow 8 signs to understand if it can become serious with the other person. Scroll through our article to the end!
You understand what you want
Not everyone wants a relationship or sex story, so ask yourself what you really want in that moment, not necessarily from that person. If there is no reciprocity, a bed relationship can hurt.
Enjoy the moment
We know, expectations are the most sabotaging triggers in relationships. They are human, they must not be eliminated at all costs, but how to manage them must be learned. So, let’s go back to step 1: what do you want? If it’s just sex, enjoy the sex. The rest will come by itself.
Give yourself a maximum time…
You slept with it and you liked it. If the story of the bed continues, but there is also a complicity that goes beyond, stay in observation, see what you both want. If you want more from him, give yourself a maximum time: if, for example, the situation doesn’t evolve within three months (after having also invested feelings and emotions), then stop. But not out of spite or revenge, but to protect yourself and your feelings: there’s no point in continuing to invest in a one-sided relationship.
…but do your part
If you want reciprocity, you have to do your part. This does not mean losing dignity, but neither does it mean behaving like princesses, or rather “he has to woo me, do everything himself…”. Support the game of seduction: if you want love in addition to sex, know that even that is done in two.
There is emotional intimacy
He asks you about you, about your life, he is interested in you, not in pre and post sex: this is important to know. In pre-sex, he might do it just to end up in bed together, in post-sex, he uses hooks to make conversation, to occupy a space. Out of bed, therefore out of context, if he inquires, even if he doesn’t have to see you, it means that there is interest.
It remembers important appointments for you
That university exam, that interview, that medical visit, that meeting… He remembers them and inquires about how they went, how you are. Maybe not every day, but it’s there. There is. He wants to be there.
It’s constant
Maybe not every day, but he’s constantly showing up. And not just to get some sex. If he comes in once a month, he’s not interested.
It’s not just about sex
When you see each other, you don’t get together just to have sex. There is conviviality: maybe you have dinner together first, or you meet to talk. Then you also have great sex, but there’s a trade-off. And not just fluids.
Plan his agenda
If he shows up at 9pm, asking if you’re free, it’s probably because he missed an appointment, so he’s using you as a fallback, or he just wants to have sex. If, on the other hand, he proposes to meet you to do something together, telling you a date, then an appointment that he fixes in his diary, then there’s a better chance that he’s interested.
He introduces you into his life
He is pleased to introduce you to his friends, or to meet yours. She wants to be there and know who is around you: good sign!
Make plans
Even if it’s just sex, if there’s a certain regularity in seeing you, then it means that he’s fine with you. And if he’s also planning outside of bed, then there’s more to it than just bedroom chemistry…
It pampers you
He lets you find the bottle of your favorite wine at home, the next time he comes with your favorite book in hand… In short, he gives you attention, pampers you, satisfies your wishes, listens to you. He cares about making you happy. And this is the only premise that matters for a relationship that can last.
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Source: Vanity Fair
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