A match on Tinder doesn’t mean I’ll sleep with you: the story of Madi Garriott

For some guys, getting a like or a match on a dating app is a green light to sleep with you. Sometimes it is, very often it is not and just as often a live meeting can totally change the idea that you have made of that person so much that you do not want to see them even in a million years, let alone have sex with them. Too bad that for what I hope is an increasingly small group of men, the last two options are not contemplated: it is unthinkable not to want to share intimacy with them. We are facing the abc of toxic masculinity: predatory man, prey woman with various declinations, from wooden pussy to easy based on the outcome of the evening.

I thought about exactly this when, the other day, I came across a video about TikTok where a girl, Madi Garriott, he told how a date a few months ago literally turned into a nightmare.

@madi_bby95Part one about what happened the other night with the tinder date.. ##fyp ##toxic ##tinder♬ original sound – madigarriott12

It all started with a match on Tinder which was followed by weeks of messages to get to know each other a little better. Then, as he specified Madi, “I felt comfortable enough to give him my phone number and, above all, it was clearly written in my bio that I was looking for a relationship”. Everything goes according to script: they start exchanging messages, from good morning to good night, how are you or what you do during the day. Indeed, the creator says that the boy was always sweet and helpful. After days like this, he predictably asks her out for dinner. They make an appointment and decide that he would come and pick her up at home and then they would decide what to do.

At this point, the first signs that are not exactly comforting begin to arrive: at the last moment he warns her that he would be delayed because of work and, once in the car, he tells her that they would spend the evening at his house.. The girl is not enthusiastic about this change of plans, but thinks in good faith that maybe he wants to surprise her. Instead, nothing: no dinner, just a series of drinks waiting for her that he repeatedly offers her forcing her to drink, even though she says she is a teetotaler. Obviously, Madi no longer feels comfortable being there and first calls her friends asking if they could come to her rescue, then calls an Uber after realizing that it would take too long. In those 15 minutes of waiting that separate her from her driver, the boy explains to her that no, he cannot leave because they are adults and “Tinder is not used to meet people, but only to have sex”. That if he did not want to be in that situation he would not have to put any likes because “things just work like this.” Indeed, by saying this he was trying “only to help her so that she would not repeat this mistake in the future”.

@madi_bby95##FelizNavidad ##toxicmasculinity ##mansplaining ##baddatestory ##fyp ##fypシ ##hesaidwhat ##toxicrelationship ##trauma ##what ##fypdoesntwork♬ original sound – madigarriott12

Madi secretly picked up the entire conversation and posted it on TikTok documenting what many girls find themselves going through just for accepting an (almost) blind date. The reactions were the most disparate: from those who ask to report the boy to those who wonder if she was able to return home safely. Fortunately, the whole thing got robbed as a bad experience and she was just stuck by him on Tinder.

By publishing the videos, the girl wanted to send a message to all those who could find themselves in a similar situation: never feel obligated to have sex with someone if we have no intention of it. There is no rule or mathematical equation that sex should follow in a match on Tinder. We have every right to leave, without looking back, and this shouldn’t make us feel guilty or mortified.

If it’s a problem for him, it can be a good opportunity to learn how relationships with the opposite sex work in a healthy way. Let’s keep this in mind: the choice is always ours alone.