In its The Magic of Chaos podcastAislinn Derbez had as a guest the Mexican official Mariana Rodríguez, wife of the governor of Nuevo León Samuel García, who took advantage of the space to talk about different topics.
The first lady of Nuevo León decided to open her heart to share how traumatic it was to face different losses of babies, something that the driver could understand very well, as she assured that she also went through this terrible experience.
As president of the DIF in her home state, Mariana recalled how difficult it was for her to have to deal with so many children when motherhood seemed to be denied her.
I brought an internal emptiness with the issue of my pregnancy losses, that sometimes I said, ‘What a downer God, the universe, whoever, for having put me in a job in which there are many children, perhaps unwanted , and I want so much to be a mother’. That I said, ‘I mean, for something they haven’t given me the opportunity to be a mother and maybe I’m going to use this void as a fortress to move so many things.’
Listening to her, the protagonist of to the bad she remembered that she had also suffered the loss of a baby and that she had never said it publicly, as it seems to be a taboo subject.
I feel like a lot of women have gone through a loss, myself included, and we don’t say it. I mean, I think it’s the first time I’ve said it on this podcast. I think that it also happened to me to live it like you and many other women; We lose babies in the first stage of pregnancy and, obviously, even in more advanced stages or when they are already born and it really is one of the most taboo topics, the least talked about.
The actress of Heaven in your Eyes He assured that it happened to him shortly after having had his daughter Kai and he confessed that it was something very painful, since for a very short time of pregnancy that can be had, the illusions are many and everything ends in a moment. Something in which both agreed was that a duel has to be experienced and each woman must live her process at her pace. For her part, she too influencers and businesswoman assured that the worst thing is to be alone in those difficult moments.
I do not agree with giving notice up to three months because that makes us feel so alone when we live it. Yes and no, because maybe I’m going to contradict myself, because well yes, I talked about the first one but I didn’t talk about the other three, because I lend myself to: ‘He invented the pregnancy for a political issue, he wanted to attract attention’. And that was not my intention, that is, it really was a loss, well, very personal.
In addition, they expressed their feelings about how difficult it is to overcome the fear of not being a mother again and how they have to live with a kind of post-loss trauma, for which they advise women on the importance of seeking help and that know that you are not alone.
