This article is published in issue 20 of Vanity Fair on newsstands until May 17, 2022
The other day on the radio we were talking about dating apps, why the first one has just been launched – it’s called Planet Theta – where we hang out in the Metaverse.
Speaking of traditional apps, however, something new has come up: real paid online courses are spreading for men who use apps with the aim of getting as many women to bed as possible. I looked at the profile of a couple of these nerdy pseudogurus on Instagram who would teach seduction techniques. Here are some of their odd advice: girls do not go out with those who have Postepay; she wears eyeliner and poet’s shirts; learn your social security number by heart because women are impressed by men who remember things … So far, they seem nonsense to me, but patience. It gets tough when her advice becomes, “If you want to play it safe, go for it with a girl who has an eating disorder.” Here we are approaching the territory of Negging, or Neg: a disturbing technique to seduce which consists in undermining female self-esteem to make the prey more fragile and therefore more manipulable. Practical examples: fake compliments aimed at making women insecure, such as “I usually like skinny girls but you are so real”, or “I used to be with a beautiful girl but you are much sweeter”. In short, criticism disguised as compliments. In addition to the usual techniques of middle school bullies: do not call back, end the conversation first, be distant and not very interested … The old theorem of Marco Ferradini: “Take a woman, treat her badly … and then you will see that she will love you”, updated for digital troglodytes. At one point, a psychologist phoned and gave seemingly obvious advice.
Not of not attending dating apps, but of running away immediately and flying away from men who make you feel uncomfortable, criticize, manipulate, make you feel bad.
As in life.
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