Benny Blanco is a living green flag: that’s why we are crazy about him

Benny Blanco He is the man of dreams. Well yes, even those who at the beginning turned up their noses, considering the one formed by him and Selena Gomez A badly assorted couple, based purely on a superficial and questionable aesthetic judgment, had to change their mind.

The two appeared in several interviews for the promotion of their album I Said I Love You First And, in each one, they gave anecdotes about the relationship and their way of communicating.

The hosted at the podcast On Purpose with Jay Shetty Rather, he seemed to be a healthy couple therapy: the clips went around the web. Users flooded content with comments such as: “I hope to meet a Benny Blanco in life”, “Now we understand you perfectly Selena”, “How nice to attend a mature relationship”, “I need an emotionally intelligent partner like Benny” or again: “Benny could keep an behavior course on dating to many guys ».

But what did the manufacturer of such revolutionary say?

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For example, he admitted, with simplicity, that his first thought in the morning is aimed at Selena, in particular he wonders: “How can I make her the best day?”. Then he adds: «I can’t even imagine a world in which I turn to her screaming Or in which she does the same thing with me. We do not fight, we have conversations, discussions. Sometimes she tells me to be irritated and need 25 minutes. I give her his space and after 5 minutes I pity me and asks me to return. But we have established the right boundaries, we must not stay on it all the time, It is enough for me to be at home, every now and then tell her that I love her And then continue doing what I was doing ».

Their past? It is not a problem for him, but a resource and a teaching: «When you are with someone only that person does not frequent, but all the other people he has attended in the past, every relationship he has ever had, every teaching he has learned from his life with the former partners, parents, friends. I had to look for a way to build this trust ».

«I am aware of the strengths of Selena and her fragility. If I have to go to a dinner, then to a party, then to that event and then to that other, sometimes I know that a simple message is enough, between one thing and another, to tell you that I am thinking about it “ reveals with reassuring tone.

“Stop trying to be cool guys. I believe that the coolest thing is to show one’s emotions. For example, I call my mom and remember how beautiful it is. I think it is cool to make people feel good, many try only to diminish them to feel better ».

Another fundamental rule of Benny Blanco Book? Do not give the person you love for granted: “The other night we were in the pool and I said” you are beautiful “and I didn’t only understand physically, you can literally feel her aura that it exudes humanity”.

Concludes with a warning: «I think the problem of people, especially men, is that they don’t listen. You have to listen. Shut up and listen. A woman will tell you exactly what she needs, it is useless for you to complain and you say you don’t know. He told you, you are just an idiot who is not listening. If a girl is frustrated with you for something it is because, probably, it has pointed it out to you many times and you were not paying attention ».

Do they all seem obvious dynamics that underlie relationships? Well, I’m not so obvious! Selena Gomez herself confessed that she never felt so safe and understood before and that she has never trusted so blindly of someone and what he feels for her as today: «When Benny looks at me, I don’t think he sees anything different from what they are and this is very rare to find. But when it happens, you feel well ».

The era of ailments It seems to have come (finally) at the terminus: it’s time to wave the Green Flags.

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