Last Tuesday (29), a subject again gained strength on social networks: the alleged betrayal of singer MC Cabelinho with his girlfriend and actress, Bella Campos.
On her Instagram, Bella published a note in her stories confirming the breakup “for obvious reasons”. “So far I was waiting for a public position from MC Cabelinho about the rumors of betrayal, but men, in general, are exempt [sic] this questioning… So here we go: since we didn’t have a message from him talking about what happened, I propose to confirm here that we are no longer dating due to the obvious reasons”, he wrote.
Betrayal is a diverse topic and can occur in different contexts.
As explained by psychologist and master in psychology and health Ana Streit, in addition to sexual betrayal, there are other types, such as:
- Conditional commitment, which is “staying with the person until someone better comes along”;
- An affair without sex, that is, being emotionally involved with another person, and hiding this relationship from the partner;
- Lies and omissions. This includes “little lies” and even bigger and more complex ones, such as manipulations;
- Disrespect, such as showing contempt for your partner;
- Breaking promises, or promising what you know you won’t keep, which would also be a type of manipulation; It is
- Attitudes such as selfishness and injustice, as they denounce non-reciprocity and non-partnership in the relationship.
For the expert, each type of betrayal will hurt in more or less intense ways who was betrayed and, in addition, an aspect that can also impact is the sum of betrayals.
“Someone who has an extramarital affair that lasts for years, for example, has to engage in a series of lies to sustain the affair and hide it from their partner. This complexity increases impact and makes it difficult to rebuild trust. Forgiveness can happen, but that doesn’t mean it’s synonymous with rebuilding the relationship,” she explains.
The interpretation of a kiss as betrayal depends a lot on the context and agreements established within a relationship. In monogamous relationships, there is often an understanding of emotional and physical exclusivity between partners. In this context, if a kiss happens between a partner and another person, it can be considered treason, since it is breaking with that exclusivity.
Is there emotional fraud?
Emotional larceny is a form of psychological violence, consisting of manipulation, lies and the construction of a world of illusion, explained the psychologist. This influence can even be related to financial advantages through fraud.
“His emotional impact is huge, for using healthy aspects of the other, such as trust, for example, in addition to distorting, causing the deceived person to be hurt not only in this relationship, but in later ones as well. It is what we call an attachment wound, a complex emotional wound to be treated, but which is directly related to the person’s way of relating in the next experiences”, explains Ana, remembering that Maria da Penha Law Nº 11.340 exists for these situations. , whose mechanisms serve to curb and prevent domestic and family violence against women.
For the purposes of this law, domestic and family violence against women is any action or omission based on gender that causes death, injury, physical, sexual or psychological suffering and moral or property damage.
Who is more unfaithful: the man or the woman?
Regarding which gender cheats more, the psychologist details.
“Historically we see that men cheat more, even due to patriarchy and gender difference, which put men in this position of more power. The more machismo, the more the man will have beliefs that he can cheat and, the woman, that he needs to accept or tolerate this type of behavior. One of the main reasons, taking this aspect of the gender stereotype into account, is that men feel they have the right to cheat, after all, they are superior to women”.
Studies by “Radiografia da Infidelidade e Infiéis no Brasil”, conducted in 2022, show that eight out of 10 people have already cheated in monogamous relationships, placing Brazil as the most unfaithful country in Latin America, followed by Colombia, Mexico, Argentina and Chile .
Those interviewed in the surveys consider that men are more unfaithful and the data proves this: 91% of male participants said they had already cheated, against 88% of women.
Who forgives more: the man or the woman?
“If we follow the same logic as the answer, women tend to be more forgiving. Machismo is infiltrated in our society in different layers and influences relationships more than our eyes can see. It is important not to generalize, but to open a space to reflect on commitment in relationships and gender equality, where empathy and reciprocity speak louder than our sexist and patriarchal roots”, concludes the psychologist.
Source: CNN Brasil
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