Being a bridesmaid is a tough subject for some girls, especially when the bride gives a list of advance suggestions or demands that they help with paying for certain things. However, not all brides are like that and proof of this is the TikTok user @lisalovesrandom, who shared that brides should not be so demanding, but clearer with the girls who will accompany her to the altar.
Her video is short but quite forceful because it makes it clear that being a bridesmaid should not be an obligation or a reason to end a friendship or generate a grudge. In addition, the expenses must be borne by the bride, since she is the one who is getting married. This has caused the girl to receive multiple supportive comments.
#stitch with @stephanieberman7 I was scared to have a #transparency letter in the #bridesmaidproposalbox but it WORKED OUT. #wedding #weddingtiktok
♬ original sound – Lisa 💙
Before I got engaged, I was a bridesmaid and was unaware of all the costs and expectations associated with that role.
I’m going to share a tip I used to be more transparent with my wedding party. I wasn’t really sure about doing this, but in the end I’m glad I didn’t back down. I included a letter detailing what I expected from my wedding party. And in the letter I indicated the times of the commitments. So I told them that if they lived more than an hour apart, they didn’t have to worry about being on time for the bachelorette party or shopping for the wedding dress with me. He had no problem with that.
I also spoke specifically about the monetary commitments, I told them that I would pay for the makeup and hairstyling, but that they would be responsible for the cost of their dresses. But more importantly, I told them they could say ‘no’ to being bridesmaids. That we would still be friends and that they could keep the box of gifts I sent to ask them to be my bridesmaids. And one of them refused. And it’s OK. We are still good friends.
Some brides want their bridesmaids to cover the costs of things that ‘traditionally’ are for the bridesmaids, but we should leave the traditions behind and let them decide.
With those friends, what do you want enemies for?
It is a respectable and uncompromising decision
It’s about the moment, not the money