During an all-female talk, in the month dedicated to mental health, broadcast live on
@capellipantene and on @unobravo_net for the campaign Forti Insieme, launched by Pantene and Chiara Ferragni in July 2021 to support female start-ups in collaboration with Women’s Forum for the Economy & Society and LVenture Group, the influencer talked about mental well-being, self-acceptance and motherhood. They were with her Valeria Consorte – Vice President Beauty Care P&G Italy and Danila De Stefano, CEO & Founder of the startup Unobravo, which offers an online psychology service, two voices of women at the forefront of the gender gap. During the event, the results obtained and the projects implemented by Unobravo were shared with the public, thanks to the financial support of € 75,000 received from the program Strong Together.
Chiara Ferragni has expressed herself on many issues and many lessons that the influencer has offered to women in the world of work like her. Here we have made a brief recap.
Chiara and self-acceptance
The first question that the entrepreneur and influencer has faced is that ofself-acceptance, which helps in achieving one’s goals. “Making our defects our strengths is one of the topics I often face on my social networks, because it is one of the most difficult paths to take. Like many, I grew up in a company that offered models of beautiful women who made me feel that I had so many flaws, ruining my days. Now I realized that if we can love each other, all things come in another way“.
The real power of social media
“Social media are often demonized but today, fortunately more than ever, they can be inspiring because they promote the idea that it is good to be different and to like yourself for who you areand communicate that it is important to always give the best of ourselves ».
Solidarity between women
“In our society women are often pitted against each other, but we should learn not to compete, rather to work together, because we can make a difference. That’s what I always try to do in my life. “
Psychopherapy doesn’t have to be taboo
“I have been helped a lot by therapy in my life as a couple and as an individual, it forces you to look at your attitudes and see things from another point of view, so if you happen to find yourself in a similar situation that makes you sick , a light bulb turns on and you realize that you are re-entering the same patterns as before and you can avoid it ».
Mothers, the most penalized by society
“There is one thing I had read about when a woman becomes pregnant and is that he immediately thinks about how much he will have to sacrifice of his life, even working, to be a mother, something that never happens to fathers. They will be able to return to work as soon as possible and always feel like good fathers. It would take more co-responsibility and equality in the parental role to allow both of us to have a family and a career ».
Irony helps to deal with criticism
“Criticism is something we are all subject to, whoever is in the spotlight the most. I have always faced them in the most ironic way possible, at 22 when I saw that there was so much fury on the part of those who were older than me I found it shocking, sometimes I thought that those who criticized me were right, I was afraid of failing , criticism was part of my life at the beginning. The comments I received fueled the impostor syndrome, when I started having the first successes I said to myself “you don’t deserve all this”, I gave more value to the opinion of the haters than to that of those who believed in me, it happens to a lot of people. But if you know your worth, you learn to silence that little voice. “
“I am grateful to my mother because she taught me self-esteem, she has always told us that we can do anything, if we believe it, but then it is a path that you have to do alone. I’ve never focused on everything out there, because there are always those who are smarter, more beautiful and more successful than you. My rule is “never compare“Rather understand how to improve life by taking an example and learning from others”.
“Luckily I had a strong character and I was able to do what I did. The mental turning point came when I said to myself “we are doing something beautiful, something new and innovative and I know what my value is and I always have to remember it”. Now the criticism for me is only valid if it is made by those who know me. If it comes from strangers, I usually laugh at it and try to understand why he did it. Not giving a damn, knowing your worth and having no doubts is essential, so others can tell any lie and you can respond with a smile. I didn’t make it right away, but then I realized that I have to rely on myself ».
“It helped me learn to congratulate myself on all the right things I do. I’m sick of lists, and everything that makes me proud I write, so if one day I’m more insecure I re-read the things I managed to do and I can motivate myself. Giving ourselves credit, not just what society gives us, is like giving yourself a pat on the back, but also a way to train the brain to see the beautiful things that can be achieved. We are led to see what others do extraordinary and we are often strict with ourselves, but we must learn to live with another serenity of mind “.
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Valeria Consorte – Vice President Beauty Care P&G Italy, Chiara Ferragni and Danila De Stefano, CEO & Founder of the startup Unobravo
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Source: Vanity Fair