Chiara Maci, the message of greetings “to the fathers who remain and the mothers who act as a father”

“To the fathers who remain. To the natural and adoptive fathers. To those who wanted it and those who did not choose it. ” Chiara Maci, food blogger, cook, television presenter, on the day of Father’s Day has the habit of republishing the same post, year after year, “because it is timeless”. And he also best wishes “to the separate fathers, to those who wait one day of the week to embrace the children, to the fathers who educate, to those who teach. To the mothers who act as a father and the fathers, who manage to do everything. To the fathers who remain. To the inexperienced fathers who learn, to the fathers who become good dads over time. Not for blood and meat, but by heart. To the fathers who remain ».

To dads, but also to those mothers “who act as a father”. Like her, who Since 2014 she is Bianca’s mother, born when the food blogger was single. What Chiara Maci could not imagine, however, was the hostility of society and bureaucracy, which still demand that A monogentor must justify himself to be such. She said it herself in a post on Instagram: “At the police station to renew a passport” was embarrassed and in difficulty with the request for further documents and signatures, as if a parent was not enough“All in front of a child”. In front of her daughter she “thrown her on laughing”, “because tears in my eyes hold them when I have to, women taught me. But they hurt her before me ». They hurt Bianca who, to the mother, asked: “Why do they want other documents?”.

TO Vanity Fair He explained: «In all these years I have faced the difficulties of bureaucracy, I had to pay the lack of the double signature and the double parent, as if only one could not guarantee the child all he needs. I have been asked of the courts of the court, but I have never gone there, there are no separations in progress, there is no paternal figure ». And again: “When my daughter was very young I said to myself:” It will grow in a big city like Milan: in 2025-2030 there will be no need to give explanations anymore “. Instead, experience has shown me that this is still a very complex moment ».

One of the most tiring moments: «I remember a comment of someone who, under the photo of Bianca’s birthday party, commented:” Poor thing “. And I replied: “poor people are the children who grow without love”. I believe that the children of monogenitorial families do not miss anything. Are normal situations: Normality cannot be only that of the so -called traditional family. The family is where there are love and willingness to be together ».

But “for many, Bianca and I are not a family. When I received the letter that confirmed the enrollment in my daughter’s nest, “Maci family” was written on the envelope. When I read it, I cried for hours. It was our first recognition as a family. I understood that it is important to be recognized ».