Dr. Rocco, Rocco Siffredi’s new social conversations on female sexuality

How has female sexuality changed? What stimulates desire and what, on the other hand, inhibits it? And again: what influences today’s fantasies in women, defines the new codes of eroticism, creates persistent taboos at all ages that would be worth getting rid of for a more satisfying and serene sexuality? These and many other questions will be at the center of the conversations of Rocco Siffredi, alias Dr. Rocco, in 12 new live streaming events that throughout 2021, once a month, will see the famous porn actor and producer confront himself with special guests chosen from the world of professions and the arts.

Objective: to discover how culture, fashion, cosmetics, language, media, art can also influence the individual approach to sex.

Broadcast live on the social channels of the LaylaCosmetics brand, which promotes the initiative, the appointments with Dr. Rocco will offer valid points of comparison on the relationship that women of all ages have with their sexuality, including some practical advice to improve it.

The discussion will be interesting from the first appointment, scheduled for Thursday 4 February at 10.00 pm on the official profile of Layla Cosmetics @laylacosmetics: together with Rocco Siffredi there will be the female consultant and trainer Veronica Benini, aka @Spora, founder of the 9Muse event, one of the most acclaimed events for women empowerment.

After all, dealing with such an important and multifaceted topic as female sexuality has a very specific meaning, even in the case of a beauty brand. The expression of female sexuality is strongly linked to the image a woman has of herself, her body and her appearance in general. An image to which it is sometimes linked to the point of giving life to wrong conditioning if it is too far from one’s aesthetic ideal. Body acceptance and body positivity are therefore two key concepts within the conversations that Dr. Rocco will undertake with his guests. Because, as he himself explains: “Defects also have their beauty, their attractiveness. I remember a film with Rosanna Arquette (Crash by David Cronenberg, ed) in which she played a sick girl with leg problems. Well, this woman’s desire to live her own sexuality despite the disease pushed her to an extremely sensual approach: it was one of the most erotic films I’ve ever seen! Those legs that did not move in my eyes did not exist so she looked real, beautiful, very good in those scenes! This is to say that fixating on the idea that being attractive means having super top breasts or backside or looking like show women in my opinion is very wrong: self-esteem is the most important aspect in the sexual sphere and being able to look in the mirror and say “I am beautiful like this“Is the most rewarding attitude”.

So what makes a woman really sexy?
«Always and only her femininity. Dictated by the posture, the posture, the way of looking…. I don’t like women who don’t have self-esteem and don’t feel beautiful: they transmit a sort of shyness linked to not feeling adequate. Here, it is precisely these women that Dr. Rocco would like to arrive at, to explain that sometimes very little is enough, just like looking in the mirror without judging yourself and starting to like yourself as you are. Rather, elements such as the look and self-confidence are those that can really make a difference ».

Often, however, it also happens to objectively very beautiful women to feel imperfect.
“Most of the girls I met in my career – and I’ve known a lot of them – all came from adolescent conditioning. Really beautiful girls who, however, did not feel such and who at 15 or 16 believed themselves ugly. Sometimes they even chose porn out of spite, because feeling ugly made them want to break this mechanism somehow.: an absurdity! This happens to many girls in adolescence, which is the most critical age because you do not yet have a well-defined personality and if you grow up badly in relation to yourself and your sexuality, in the long run it can become a lot of chaos. For this there is a Dr. Rocco who in each episode will deal with topics ranging from adolescence to beauty that does not follow the canons of the model, to self-esteem; a Dr. Rocco who will give advice based on his own life experience, sincere advice, as I always have».

Female sexuality, from the age of 50 onwards, is experiencing a moment of great vigor. Unthinkable until a decade ago…. What has changed?
“It is the mirror of the times: many women are experiencing true sexuality today, with a sort of feminine revolution dictated by age. First they lived in a kind of stasis, knowing eros only to a certain degree. But they say we only use 10% of our brain potential, right? And I think it’s the same for sex: anyone who really knows it knows it’s a very, very broad subject! I think most women who have had relationships with a man with little experience, or have been limited by their cultural attitude – “I can’t tell you some things“, “certain things if I say them I am judged”- has known a kind of sexual freedom in the last 5, 6, 10 years. Years in which the woman got tired and realized she wanted to enjoy, to watch porn, to masturbate, to buy a dildo and to get to know herself better. And I know why women’s curiosity about female bisexuality has also increased and this makes me think not so much of the desire to have sex with another woman, as of knowing how female sexuality develops, how far one can go. For me it is a very important and very positive change ».

In fact, it seems that more and more women today are watching porn directed by other women.
“In the last 4 or 5 years there has been a crazy advent of young female directors in pornography. All girls who have a much more colorful and fun vision than the male one (where the same scene is repeated over and over again). A more creative and even stronger vision, because whoever thinks that female sexuality is only romantic, made up of kisses and caresses, is very wrong. In fact, I believe that when a woman begins to live her sexuality to the fullest she puts a man in crisis. Women are no longer so shy: if they want sex they are ready to claim it, to ask for it and this can sometimes create a bit of insecurity, performance anxiety; not for nothing is there an immeasurable use by men of everything that can make them sure to go all the way without failing! ».

So can being too uninhibited be counterproductive? Is there a measure in expressing one’s sexuality?
«A woman who is too uninhibited, too direct, puts the man in difficulty and makes him run away, instead of arousing his interest and bringing him closer. This I can guarantee! In confirmation of this, there are also the admissions of young actresses who, outside of porn, cannot find guys because they ask themselves the problem of not being up to par (“no, you, but how do I …?“). For some, an uninhibited woman can be arousing, while for other men, perhaps the judgmental ones who would like to be first or only, it can create the opposite effect. Then there is always the problem of judgment to consider: the woman who proposes herself in a direct and sincere manner is often the victim of judgments also by friends and acquaintances. After all, when we talk about sexual issues, the door to the private garden of each of us opens. Everyone has their own and knows what they like, the problem is that we all need to go to that little garden every now and then, but once we have used it we can’t wait to hide it, not to show it to anyone. This generates hypocrisy and the tendency to negatively judge or demonize other attitudes which are actually also one’s own but which one absolutely wants to cover and hide ».

What did women not understand about male sexuality?
“Many have certainly understood that when man is in crisis, there is no need to ask questions like”you do not like me?“! In general, however, the woman should really realize that she has become extremely stronger, indeed that she has always been stronger, albeit in a sort of “lethargy”. Now that he clearly has the situation in hand, he should show himself a little more inclined to play in the sexual sphere, without being too “extreme” towards the man, from whom he would get nothing in this way. Taking a small step back in bed, elegant and with irony, will not make you submissive, but rather return to a more playful erotic dimension ».