Elodie and the cry “to solve anger”. The therapeutic power of tears explained by the expert

Fresh 35th birthdaycelebrated on May 3, Elodie He was a guest of the television lounge of What time does it dowhere he presented the new album You love me you hate me. To the landlord Fabio Faziothe Roman singer told that he is often crying. “They are a bit likely. The work takes me a lot, sometimes I’m nervous. Lately I also cry a lot, but it is good and help to solve anger too “explained Elodie in front of the cameras. We have deepened the topic, trying to understand with the expert What is the therapeutic power of crying And why we shouldn’t Never hold and reject tears (included men, despite the famous taboo of the “Boys Don’t Cry”).

Women who cry with anger: instinct or education?

Elodie’s testimony raises a question: It happens more often to women (compared to men) to cry when angry? «Let’s start by saying that Anger is a primary and natural emotiona response to situations perceived as unjust or threatening », explains the Dr. Elisa Stefanati, psychotherapist EMDR at the Aesthe Medical Polyclinic of Ferrara. «Yet, in the way we express it, deeply cultural factors come into play. Since childhood, The girls learn that expressing anger openly (with the famous “screams and amazing” is inconvenient)while males are granted to manifest it more freely and, also, aggressively. This leads many women to channel anger into cryingespecially when the emotional tension exceeds words ». Biology also does its part. “The prolactin, higher in women, facilitates cryingwhile testosterone can inhibit it in men. But at the base It remains a cultural conditioning still very rooted ».

The therapeutic and liberating power of crying is Genderless

We are used to think of crying as a sign of fragility. Time to review this mental association, because crying actually has a much deeper function. “In adults, crying is a form of non -verbal communicationwhich expresses an intense emotional experience. It serves to say to the other: you wounded me, you have exceeded a limit », clarifies the psychotherapist Stefanati. Not only that: «PIangere also generates beneficial physical changes. During the crying blood pressure is lowered and Endorfine and encephalin-leucine are releaseda mix that acts like a natural analgesic. This is why after crying we feel better. In other words, cry not only free tension and dissolves emotional knots, but It promotes a form of deep and immediate self-cura ». So just take out and, when you feel your eyes to fill yourself with tears, let them slide without fear of feeling weak or wrong.