Emma Heming defends the choice to transfer Bruce Willis to a separate house: “I understood that I could not do it alone and that asking for help does not mean failing”

The debate, as far as it concerns, is closed. Emma Heming, 49 years old, Bruce Willis’s wife and mother of their two daughters, defended the decision to transfer the actor to a separate housemore suitable for his needs, after the diagnosis of Frontotemporal dementia. A choice that broke public opinion, but that remains the only one for her.

“I knew he would raise controversy», He told Good Morning America. “It was a very hard decision, I admit it. But it is also the safest And the best, not only for Bruce but also for our girls. And, look, It is not something to continue the debate on: I know that Bruce today receives the best care one hundred percent, and that the needs of our daughters are respected one hundred percent. This is enough ».

Bruce Willis, 70 years old, made his diagnosis of front -time dementia last year, a rare and progressive form that affects language (it takes away the ability to communicate correctly with words)behavior and cognitive abilities. A disease that, as Emma pointed out, “never manifests itself in the same way. If you have seen a case of dementia, you have seen only one case of dementia». And, therefore, “Each family must find their own way».

Precisely for this reason Emma Heming has chosen an apparently radical solution: a second home, on one floor, only for Bruce Willis, but close to the main home of the family, transformed into a peaceful, calm and controlled space, with continuous assistance. A place where the actor manages to find stability and security, while the daughters Mabel (13 years old) and Evelyn (11) can continue to live their daily lives as little girls. “For them it is important to have light -heartedness,” explains Emma. «With this accommodation we succeeded: The atmosphere is now more calm, more balanced. We are all benefiting from it».

Emma told her experience also in a book, The Unexpected Journey, released these days. Inside there is the intimate experience of a woman who suddenly found herself from wife to become caregiver. “The neurologist told us something that struck me like a slap: sometimes the caregivers die before patients,” he recalled. “It was my alarm bell. I understood that I could not do it myself and that asking for help does not mean failing. I needed someone who told me that it was allowed to take a break, and finally I accepted it ».

His goal, today, is also to send a message to those who live similar situations: “I hope my book gives caregivers the feeling of having the “permission” to deal with themselves. Why if you don’t do it, how can you really continue to take care of the person you love? ».

Emma is aware that her choice has attracted criticism. “I feel that the caregiver are very judged. People always have an opinion, but often have no direct experience. And you really don’t know what it means until you are inside, “he said, reiterating a concept that is crucial for her:« But This is not a public discussion topic. It is our life, and it is the best way to protect us all, starting with Bruce».