Four sentences not to say to end a relationship

Breaking up is a delicate practice. You can tiptoe on eggs in the hope that
no one * gets hurt but – despite the best of intentions – sooner or later someone’s heart does
smashes. If the crash is inevitable, we can at least attempt a dignified exit from the scene,
respecting our intelligence.

Rest assured that if you use even one of these four sentences to end a relationship, it will only make the situation worse.

1- “It’s a complicated period”
Putting the blame on fatigue is already a great start to putting on the clown costume. “AND
a complicated period “,” I am very busy “,” I am too stressed “etc. What reaction do you think you are generating in the other? Compassion? Mercy? Compassion? Your partner is not the crossfit instructor you can justify skipping the last few sessions with. We are all * a lot
tired * but this does not prevent us from externalizing it, communicating it, and in the meantime maintaining a
relationship? To play the difficult period card is to ask the other * for a written justification a
cover up the fact that your feelings are no longer the same. First bomb exploded.

2- “You are too much”
If shifting responsibility to stress may be an unfortunate idea, shift it directly
on the other * automatically guarantees you the loyalty card for the assholes. As if the failure of one
relationship does not stem from both people involved, this sentence is humiliating and devious. Tell to
someone * who is “too much” is the button to trigger gratuitous insecurities in the other person, like
if a partner is a statue to be modeled and remotely controlled at will, with the parts that
we like them in evidence and the less pleasant ones to move to the trash, when it seems to us.

3- “You are too much for me”
Worse than the saint, there is only the poor martyr: this sentence is a cousin of the previous one, but with a
upgrade even more petty: it is not your fault because you are wrong, indeed you are too right,
you have nothing wrong with it. Precisely for this he leaves you, because he does not deserve you. That “for me”
final pretends to gain awareness but does nothing but pour everything on victimhood e
self-pity. In both cases there is no real dialogue or meeting point, but only the
passage from one extreme to another.

4- “Can we remain friends?”
It is not written in the history books, but whoever made the atomic bomb certainly said
at least once this sentence: as one cannot become lovers by remote control, one cannot
not even convey a friendship overnight. Friendship – one of the most sacred relationships e
even that we can meet – becomes a makeshift, a pleasant that does not hurt anyone * e
puts everyone to bed, happily ever after. As if switching to one side is an automatic process
and a love story is not also made of this. Isn’t a companion also a friend? The love
romantic is not also composed of this? And if it hasn’t worked so far, why propose it
as an alternative? Whoever says such a phrase cannot tell the spoons from the bananas, and you
you deserve something else.