Gaia Trussardi tells the loss of his brother’s dad: “Mourning is an abyss that creates distance and solitude”

Gaia Trussardiborn in 80s and Wife of Adriano Gianniniopens the casket of memories on Father stylist Nicoladied of car accident in 1999, and on his brother Francispassed away in similar circumstances in 2003, with a literary debut as a letter entitled “Dear Death, my friend»(Francesco Brioschi Editore, started writing during the pandemic on the advice of a friend and who tells in an interview with Corriere della Sera. “With Dad and Francesco – he said – I died too. I came to hurry: now I know everything is transformed».

«In front of mourning, which becomes an abyss – he explains in the interview – people are afraid: here An unbridgeable distance of non -said, emotional voids is created and you fall into solitude. In England it is used to say Hang in There, stay inside, I have understood the value of these words after years. This British wisdom expresses the concept that there is no other way of dealing with suffering if not living it. In our society, in our culture, however, Pain and death remain something to avoid, when it is precisely not aware of it that it prevents us from making us help. The reaction to suffering is also given by our personal history: how they were born and raised ».

At the beginning he was afraid that putting the pain black on white would have been able to pass it through self -centeredin reality it was therapeutic for her: «I did not write this book to arouse admiration, approval, but just In the hope that we can open more and more to the spiritual sphere in various forms, the right ones for us».

The first reaction, in fact, is total despair, as she admits herself herself: «When you invest unbearable and above all not manageable pain, because you are powerless in front of the truth of the incident, you risk crazy. To survive, it usually happens that something to be controlled to give a reason to that pain: I unconsciously hungry: I’m hungry, I’m sick, that’s I could manage that pain. My body lost weight, it was not accepted, the pains to the muscles due to lack of nutrients were severe. I came out thanks to my strong desire to want to be a mother », he tells in the interview with Courier.

The book is full of memories that it generously shares with readers, as well as the portrait of the father: «Dad has loved all of us (Beatrice, Francesco, Tomaso and Gaia, ed.) In the same way, but recognizing his uniqueness in each of us: I was his princess. Dad was a strength of nature, dynamic, I never remember him sitting, engaging with everyone».