Harrison Ford: “Getting married at 23 as I did should be illegal”. Pros and cons of early weddings

Harrison Ford83 years and 15 marriage with the colleague Calista Flockhart, It has no hair on the tongue. Guest of the format Wild Card with Rachel Martinthe American actor commented: “I got married for the first time at 23 years old, which according to me should be illegal”. The Hollywood star refers to wedding with Mary Marquardtwho became his wife in 1964 (then the divorce in 1979). A statement, that of Harrison Ford, which opens the debate: How important is the age for a solid marriage? And what are the risks and benefits of say “yes, I want it” too early? We talked about it with the expert: that’s what he explained to us.

The risks of early marriages according to the psychologist

“Getting married too young,” explains the Psychotherapist Elisa StefanatiEMDR expert of the Aesthe Medical Polyclinic of Ferrara, «can involve risk factors related to poor maturity (physiological)the lack of life experience and the Difficulty managing complex responsibilities». «The personality, around 20, is still under construction, e idealize love (and partner) It is frequent at this age. Sometimes, choosing to get married soon was born from desire to escape from an oppressive/difficult family reality or from social and cultural pressures. Nothing more wrong ». The psychotherapist underlines that before the big step “it is crucial to evaluate Stability of the relationship, compatibility of common values ​​and objectives. Get to know each other, face conflicts together and learn to communicate They are fundamental prerequisites of a marriage destined to hold the test of time. Without these bases, the risk of misunderstandings And consequent distances increases ».

The advantages and opportunities of the wedding at a young age

Not everything is negative: «get married when you are young brings with you A load of enthusiasm, energy and a vital push Which can support the couple in daily challenges, “comments Dr. Stefanati. «Tacking the diapers of diapers, if the family widens, or the first difficulties of the work with the freshness of the 20 years It is a concrete advantage, “comments the doctor. “Furthermore, If the decision to get married is awarecan be a positive choice, which stimulates the individual and couple growth. Certainly before reaching the wedding it is useful speak openly about mutual motivations, expectations and fears. Learning the art of confrontation remains the primary factor to make a wedding work, and this really applies to any age. In conclusion, Age matters less than the quality of dialogue And the ability to build a shared life project together », concludes Stefanati. Who knows what Harrison Ford would think, after three weddings (of which the last one, must have been said, happily standing for 15 years).