Look at the socialite and influencer Kourtney Kardashian: since dating the drummer all tattoos and hoodies with skulls Travis Barker he took on a punk-rock look that before – let’s face it – was absolutely not included in his looks. Okay, being empathic and in symbiosis with the partner, especially in the initial phase of pure idyll, but be careful not to fall into chameleon syndrome. What is it about? If it is only natural for two people who are together to share passions, clothing and hobbies, there is a fine line between the beneficial and mutual exchange of influences with the loved one and denying one’s tastes for become the clone of your boyfriend / husband / lover.
CHAMELEON’S SYNDROME, THE PSYCHOLOGIST SPEAKS
As the doctor explains Biancamaria Fracas, psychologist and sexual counselor with studio in Desenzano del Garda, “there are people who, systematically, when they get engaged take on the appearance of a partner, fully adopting his tastes, his style, his hobbies, his world. In doing so, however, these subjects cancel themselves, letting out a low self-esteem: we are convinced that to like more and to be loved and accepted it is necessary to mold oneself on the other, denying what, in fact, one is. If this way of acting prevails and becomes the lasting couple dynamics, various problems can arise », warns the expert. «Indulge the other person completely it is equivalent to taking off your own clothes to wear those of your partner: if for example I love the sea and he love the mountains and every weekend we go only to climb the peaks, it means that I am canceling my identity in the name of what is thought to be Love. The danger is that of developing an emotional dependence, to forget who one is, to humble oneself and annihilate oneself as well as distort one’s feelings, emotions and opinions and live in the strenuous attitude of pleasing the other for fear that, otherwise, he will go away. It must then be said that by doing so, one also becomes less interesting in the eyes of the partner and instead of creating the perfect couple, we arrive at a sort of internal implosion, because the kind of diversity that makes the existence of two sparkling, dynamic and alive is missing ».
In gallery, i advice expert to avoid falling into the trap of the chameleon couple.
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