“I’m on the edge of glory with you”, He sang Lady Gaga more than ten years ago: «the edge», on the border, pushing yourself to the limit. Between the sheets, how could this translate? In practice, theedging (as this technique is called) consists of stop shortly before orgasm and start again after a short break, for an even more powerful orgasm.
Edging works well both alone and in pairs and is a simple, satisfying and dynamic activity, from include in the routine masturbation – solo or reciprocal – whenever you feel ready.
It could be a new game to be shared, also to clear the practice of auto-eroticism and remove that patina of forbidden, which it has been cloaked for centuries.
«Self-eroticism, like masturbation in pairs, has a positive impact both on an individual level, as moment of self-discovery and the functioning of one’s body, both at a relational level as the possibility of experimenting and playing with the other in the name of freedom from the performance aspects – comments the doctor Valentina Cosmipsychotherapist and SISP sexologist – Although masturbatory behavior is still permeated today by many taboos and die-hard stereotypes, it is equally true that more and more we are witnessing one customs clearance of this behavior, especially among the very young and, I would stress, the very young! A greater awareness, therefore, in contact with one’s body that goes hand in hand with recognizing oneself right to sexual pleasure and well-being starting from oneself and then sharing what has been learned within a couple relationship “.
This is also confirmed by the results of one LELO research of 2021 who investigated the sexual habits of Italians: it emerges, in fact, that autoeroticism is a transversal practice and practiced regardless of age, gender and sentimental situation. The 76.1% of the interviewees the practice regularly as a way to get to know each other, while the 49.3% considers it one healthy habit.
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Masturbation is good for you, so. And to make it even more fun, there are many ways. Among these, edging, in fact, on which we investigated with Dr. Cosmi, LELO consultant, to understand more.
Edging: what exactly does it consist of?
«The expression comes from the word “Edge” what does it mean border: with the term “edging”, we mean that related practice to control and / or prolongation of orgasm. This practice consists in bringing the partner to the peak of pleasure, and then stopping shortly before making him reach orgasm “.
Can both women and men practice it?
«Certainly, it is something that can be experienced by everyone and that however strongly depends on the degree of knowledge and intimacy that the partners have of each other. Precisely because this practice “touches” the rhythm of sexual intercourse and the “times”, it is obviously essential that you have one knowledge of the partnerhow it works and what its tastes are ».
Is it true that it would be better for men to be avoided on a health level?
“There is no scientific evidence to this effect. The speech is much broader and more complex and the limit is very subtle. In fact, one can try to delay pleasure as a game and shared experience with the partner, but much more often this runs the risk of assume performance and “control” tones that go beyond a playful and spontaneous dimension of sexuality. Just the “thinking of having to think” of something else to delay pleasure is something in my opinion of antagonist to the very concept of sexuality and sexual pleasure. Since in our culture sexuality is often associated with the idea of performance, a practice such as edging easily opens the door to the unhealthy concept of having to prolong the pleasure at all costs, assuming that this automatically please the other ».
So, better not think?
“As I said a moment ago, I don’t think it’s a question of thinking about something; on the other hand, if this can be pleasant for both of you, it is a question of discovering with your partner when it is possible to stop and extend the expectation of pleasure a little bit in a playful and uncontrolled mode. Often, in an attempt to focus on the other and on what they might like, we not only forget about ourselves, but we also risk not really staying in contact with the partner, instead applying patterns and clichés learned elsewhere ».
What are the orgasmic benefits of edging?
“Just as there are no contraindications other than those of an excessive accumulated tension and a difficulty in letting go, I don’t think there are specific benefits. Delaying orgasm is often interpreted as a positive performance aspect, but in fact it can be a poorly relational practice and very centered on control aspects that can subsequently be difficult to abandon “.
For what reasons, then, should one practice then?
«From the point of view of intimacy and discovery of the partner, it can be a way like any other to play, but inserted inside a variety of “sexual” behaviors and games, not as a practice to be carried out at all costs always and in any case ».
Is it practicable both as a couple and alone?
“Of course; it can be practiced in pairs, but also alone, with theself-eroticismexperimenting and playing with one’s limits, always in a dimension of discovery and knowledge of oneself and one’s body “.
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