Influencer Paola Turani publishes some stories on the fatigue of motherhood and an uproar breaks out on the net. Not only with the 2 million followers of Instagram, mind you. Many felt touched and offended in the first person, triggering a real shitstorm on the 34-year-old model from Bergamo. Offenses, insults, curses. All this for just admitting candidly that managing a 9-year-old is stressful. A son who loves – as he quickly added, perhaps anticipating the controversy that would be unleashed – and which he strongly wanted.
Nothing to do, no penalty: if you become a mother you have to paint the journey of life as a path full of rainbows and flowers. Or at least this is the common narrative, the most reassuring and traveled road. If you deviate from it, you are a distorted and unworthy parent.
When wrote “Now it’s pretty challenging” heavy judgments and haters were unleashed. He also added: «The 9 months are terrible, but is it normal or does it all depend on the character of a child? Or why are the males more physical and agitated? ‘ And then: «He doesn’t stay still for a second, in the last 15 days you have had a crazy change».
The film with Jennifer Lopez immediately comes to mind What to expect when you expect. She is ten years old but it cannot be defined as dated because there is a scene with Elizabeth Banks that is tender: in pregnancy she experiences the whole range of natural and physiological changes, from incontinence to swollen ankles but no one had ever felt her before . She had been portrayed as gestation as a parenthesis in which she would feel radiant. Listen Listen: one can be radiant with happiness and tired at the same timewithout one state of mind getting in the way of the other.
Paola Turani, however, does not fit in and with new stories, responds to criticism: “However, in the past I happened to read or listen here on Instagram pages of mothers who told how challenging it was to raise a child, the moments of desperate crying to manage, the organization of the days, breastfeeding, sleepless nights, education , weaning, whims and all the rest … I read or listened to the various stories as if they were my friends, I was not yet a mother so I could not understand, but I could imagine and I could empathize with them. Ah, empathy. I never allowed myself to judge those outbursts and only a few months ago I knew nothing about children and children. Since Anto Enea was born I too have been reborn, I have never been so happy and you know it. The joy that my little one gives me every day is incredible. Would I change with the life I was before? NO. NEVER. But can it be said that in certain moments it is more challenging and it is not as easy as it seems? And how. Why are some people offended by these claims? I do not know. Is it right to throw an avalanche of shit on me, just because on my page with a smile on my face and in all serenity I have expressed a legitimate state of mind? In my opinion not, but unfortunately it works like this. Some people complain about perfection on social media, but if you are honest and tell the truth, they massacre you. And then one last thing, don’t we put them there ?! Sticazzi, of course! “
Maybe if it were possible to clear customs sincerity future parents could also become more aware of their choice on the subject. And in fact mmany moms took her side on Twitter claiming the right to tell their experience without apologizing or permission. Paola Turani would not go backbut even if someone regrets their choice, they should feel free to express discomfort or suffering without looming in the media pillory.
The will to want or not want children should be protected and respected in all cases.
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Source: Vanity Fair
