Pleasure techniques that straight men should learn from gay women

Many studies have shown that heterosexual women are much less likely to have orgasms than men during sex with an opposite-gender partner. And this is theorgasm gap already established. But it has been proven that heterosexual women are also less likely to have orgasms than homosexual women.

To say it is the last report drawn up by researchers from various US universities: they administered a survey on the MSNBC TV channel site, which was answered by more than 24,000 heterosexual women together with 340 homosexuals. Demographic matching yielded a final sample of 2,510 heterosexual and 283 homosexual women, ages 18 to 65, who were in relationships and had had sex during the previous month. Well, the result was that homosexual women reported a significantly higher likelihood of reaching orgasm (p < 0.001).

Latent orgasms in heterosexual couples? A “problem” for centuries

A century ago, during the twenties, two decades before that Alfred Kinsey of Indiana University became the first publicly recognized sex researcher, Dr Robert Dickinsona New York gynecologist, examined “silently” (i.e. without declaring to them that they were being examined) a thousand married women in their sexual practice. Their main complaint? No orgasms during sex with partner. Almost all achieved it alone, but even those who lived in happy marriages rarely experienced the peak of pleasure during sex.

In the forties, the sexologist Kinsey, during his studies on the subject, confirmed the fact: wives orgasmed far fewer times than husbands. And this was consistently confirmed by dozens of studies. In numbers, the men they reported orgasms about 95% of the time in which they had sexual intercourse, but depending on the study, the figure for heterosexual women was much lower. The reasons? The scientists probed two roads: or were the women having problems or was it there quality of sexual intercourse.

Obviously for decades, researchers have opted for the first version: being women the most emotionally articulate gender, they claimed that even the youngest emotional upsets could sabotage their orgasms.

Certainly some mental projections that we women build ourselves can undermine the achievement of pleasure: researchers at Valparaiso University in Indiana asked 452 women why they had difficulty coming. There list of reasons stilata saw at the top: anxiety, pain during penetration, poor self-lubrication, and body image issues.

The social identikit also affects the achievement of orgasm

Orgasm is a matter that closely concerns too social background and education received. In fact, many studies have documented that 4 items could have a small effect on the achievement of orgasm. These are:

• Demography: Increasing age, higher education, and higher income, increases a woman’s likelihood of reaching orgasm.
• Received education: religious beliefs and traditional gender roles (dichotomy between male householder and female housewife) can negatively affect the achievement of orgasm. Women who embrace more liberal views increase their odds of having orgasms.
• Relations: A happy relationship increases the chances of having orgasms.
• Sexual trauma: Those who have been sexually abused (as a minor or even as an adult) are less likely to experience orgasm.

Orgasm gap: the problem isn’t women, it’s the quality of sex

With the advent of the new millennium, therefore since the early 2000sseveral sexologists have moved away from the theory that the failure to reach orgasm is a problem exclusively concerning the female gender, going to examine the focus of the issue: the quality of sexual intercourse.

And indeed, they found that what lovers do – or don’t do – in bed makes a much bigger difference and largely explains the orgasm gap. Australian researchers surveyed 5,118 heterosexual men and women aged 16 to 59 on the four factors discussed above, then asked them to describe the quality of the genital stimulation received (specifically, by vaginal intercourse 95%, by manual stimulation 80% and by oral sex 25%) during their last intercourse with their partner and if they eventually climaxed. As expected, 95% of men reported orgasm, but among women, only 69% had reached a climax. Be warned though: demographics, personal beliefs and beliefs, relationships and stories of trauma had little impact on their orgasm rate.

Among menthe likelihood of reaching orgasm it varied only slightly based on the type of genital touch they received: specifically, 96% achieved it only with sexual intercourse; 95% by manual stimulation and intercourse and 98% by manual stimulation, intercourse and fellatio.

For the womenon the other hand, the probability of reaching orgasm it varied considerably based on the types of genital stimulation they received: specifically, 50% achieved it only with sexual intercourse; 71% by vulvar-clitoral massage, finger insertion and sexual intercourse and 86% by vulvar-clitoral massage, finger insertion, sexual intercourse and cunnilingus.

The clitoris confirms itself as the button of pleasure

For reproductive purposes, penetrative intercourse it is at the heart of the sexual act. But for the pleasure and thewomen’s orgasmyou need to focus more on vulvar-clitoral massage and oral sex. In fact, in a woman, the organ of pleasure is not the vagina, but the clitoris, the small ex-vagina protuberance located under the upper junction of the vaginal lips. In some positions, it is possible that the penetration also stimulates the clitoris, but it is not obvious.

That the clitoris is deputy to pleasure is known anatomically, but that pave the way for pleasure It is also demonstrated by other studies:

• Researchers at Indiana University surveyed 1,055 women between the ages of 14 and 94. Fewer than 1 in 5 (18%) reported orgasms solely from intercourse. Most said they needed to direct clitoral caresses. And many of those who reported vaginal orgasms reported more satisfying orgasms if the penetration was accompanied by strokes directed at the clitoris.
• Scientists from different universities interviewed 407 homosexual women and 370 heterosexual women. The two groups were demographically comparable, but the former reported significantly more orgasms, having received multiple hand stimulation (clitoral massage and finger insertion) and cunnilingus.
• Researchers at Chapman University in Southern California analyzed orgasms among 52,588 American adults. Homosexual women reported having come in 86% of sexual intercourse, heterosexual women in only 65%. The former kissed more, shared more reciprocal touches all over their bodies, and received more vulvar massages, finger insertions, and cunnilingus.

Female orgasm? Matter of dedication

In the most recent study, reported at the beginning, compared to heterosexual women, homosexual women received much more attention to the clitoris. Same-sex female couples were also more likely to schedule sex in advance, a take a bath or shower together before making love, to talk about sex and to engage in preliminary pamperingwhich included soft kisses, more passionate kisses and mutual caresses all over the body, lasting for more than 30 minutes. Penetration is once again confirmed not to be the key to pleasure, quite the contrary. So, partners who are devoted to a woman, do not rush to conclude and rediscover the pleasure of having sex with her, pausing on erogenous zones and small gestures of attention.

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