Happy New Year, and by Happy New Year, I mean Happy September!
September is not a month like any other, at least if you are approaching thirty and you are still composing the pieces of your life. For those in their thirties September is a (re) departure, the time to take stock of the situation and remember where we were before the summer. July and August swing us in a dream atmosphere but September confirms that we were not lobotomized, but only on vacation. Feared or highly anticipated, made up of good intentions mixed with new fears, September is the bearer of news and enthusiasm, we just have to get ready to leave. Where to start?
1. Tidying up (outside and inside the head)
To resume our journey we must first of all remember where we were going. What to do? Where to live? How to get what is missing in our life? These are all questions that did not seem to afflict us on the water’s edge, but now they come back and ask to be contemplated. Don’t panic, let’s write down all the points that deserve more attention, and
let’s retrace our itinerary. If the path is uncertain, let’s not project ourselves too far forward, we risk panicking by designing scenarios that do not yet exist. We define the stages day after day, thinking about what we are doing today. We rearrange thoughts, goals, what we need to feel good.
2. Remember strengths and weaknesses
September is an opportunity to remember how much we are able to do and what our limits are: it can be useful to write down a list of what we do best, which work or study method we found most functional to take action, and what instead it turned out to be bankruptcy. By remembering our strengths but also our limitations, we can resume our routine by leveraging the skills we have developed and at the same time (more easily) diverting the missteps because we know how to recognize them better than before!
3. Don’t look at others (too much)
It is a vice that unfortunately we never get rid of, every month of the year. But in September in particular we could pay attention to the paths that other people are taking: where they are moving, at what point in their studies they have arrived, how long they can still stay on vacation, and if they have obtained a new job. It is natural to notice if the other does something that we lack or cannot afford, but without turning it into self-pity! We do not devalue our path, but on the contrary we take the other as inspiration to improve ourselves and push us even more to move forward with our goals.
September also risks sending us into panic: the exams to take, the job to find, the transfers, the underpaid internship? It’s a moment and we go heart-pounding. But it is good to remember that we can move at our own pace, without imposing on ourselves an itinerary or a level of productivity that we are unable to maintain. Our mental health is important all year round, even when society invites us to start again: if this means taking another break and moving with our times, it is right to give space to this need. Let’s let our fears vent, let’s compare ourselves with the best people around us (including a * psychotherapist!), And slowly start breathing again!