Sex without penetration, the advantages and risks of the outcourse

We have always been used to understanding the sex, or rather the full sexual intercourse (or in any case satisfactory), such as that which also contemplates – or only – the penetration. What if it isn’t so?

With the mass migration to a virtual world that has never been so crowded, among the habits and customs that change in the context of intimacy, today the phenomenon ofoutercourse. Have you already heard of it? This is theerotic activity that does not include sexual penetration.

Outercourse as a synonym for petting, so? Not really. Because the outercourse are pampering yes, but more thrusts: long live kisses and caresses, but also frottage and mutual masturbation! All options that today present themselves as a safer and much more widespread alternative to penetrative sex. In fact, many couples choose to practice the outcourse as it clearly establishes the boundaries of any activity that could instead cause a pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases or Covid.

A practice that is worth investigating, to eventually put it into practice with much more awareness. Remembering that the fact that there is no penetration does not make it a less viable option for reaching orgasm. In sex I’m there awareness, the consent and the freedom the road to pleasure.

What is the outercourse?

Outercourse is a term that he generally understands any kind of non-penetrative sexual play, he claims Cassandra Corrado, sex educator. “So it could include male or female manual masturbation, nipple stimulation, perineal massage, cunnilingus, fellatio … Anything that stimulates the outside of the body for sexual pleasure.”

Going into detail, the outcourse has a broader definition e it can mean different things, depending on the interpretations. For some people, outcourse is any sexual activity other than vaginal penetration through the penis, while others define it more strictly as just the sexual acts that do not involve any kind of penetration (therefore also with fingers or sex toys, for example).

Another way of interpreting it is the practice ofabstinence: Some people see outcourse as a form of abstinence (ie, they voluntarily choose not to understand penetration), while others see it as an alternative or possible option to “have sex”. It can also be understood as embracing any sexual activity that involves a reduced risk of sexually transmitted diseases or a reduced chance of pregnancy, even if the exchanges of fluids cannot be safely excluded, as there are still close contacts in the sexual areas.

What activities can fall under the definition of an outercourse?

Dry humping
Dry humping involves it mutual rubbing of the genitals or a part of the body against the partner’s genitals, often with clothing still on. With this practice, the risk of pregnancy or STDs is much lower than with penetrative sex. Dry humping could also refer to the rubbing of the penis or clitoris between the buttocks or thighs of the partner in a simulated sexual intercourse. This carries greater risks in terms of both sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy as sperm or vaginal lubrication is more likely to touch the partner’s genital mucous membranes or accidentally enter the vagina.

French kiss
Dear old woman “make out “ (which never goes out of style!) can be considered a part of the outercourse. Indeed, kissing with intensity, varying the modalities (lip biting, tongue, licking around the mouth …) is a very erotic, simple but fun activity.

Mutual masturbation
Mutual masturbation can describe two different things. First, it can mean that partners masturbate their own sex at the same time, looking into each other’s eyes, or that they masturbate each other. The first option carries the lowest risk of STDs, as well as being surprisingly hot, hot. Try to position yourself at the ends of the bed and masturbate, looking at each other, but with the prohibition to approach the other, while giving yourself pleasure. It is the basis of the phone sex.

Tribadism
Colloquially or trivially known as scissor, this form of outercourse involves the rubbing of two vulvas, positioning themselves like a scissor, to mutually stimulate the clitoris. Finding the right angle is the key to feeling pleasure, so don’t be afraid to experiment with different positions.

Frottage
Frottage is the male equivalent of female tribadism and consists of rubbing of the two penises or the erogenous zones when naked and without penetration.

Massage
Is there anything sexier than a massage? Rubbing, touching, rubbing and stroking your partner’s body with your hands is a safe and extremely enjoyable form of outdoor activity. The erotic pleasure that one can feel, feeling the body of the other under the hands is unparalleled.

Sex toys
One external vibrator it’s a great way to enjoy the outercourse. Just apply it on the clitoris, penis, perineum or nipples and operate it. A vibrator is a great way to orgasm without needing someone else to touch you, which is useful if you are interested in practicing as a form of abstinence from couple sex. Just make sure you clean the sex toys well after use, especially if you use them during intercourse.

Manual masturbation
Using your hands on your partner’s genitals can be seen as a form of outercourse. However, if the vagina or anus is penetrated, some people may see it as penetrative intercourse. Whether you look at it one way or another, only do it if you feel like it (whether you are giving it or receiving it).

Oral sex (fellatio or cunnilingus)
Doing fellatio or cunnilingus is part of the outercourse activities, since in theory there is no penetration (even if in cunnilingus it can be done with the tongue). In any case, if these two practices reduce the percentage of risk of becoming pregnant, they do not reduce that of contracting STIs. So if you opt for oral sex, remember to use either or the anyway condom or the dental dam.

Is the outcourse really “safe sex”?

No, not necessarily. “Any type of sexual act carries a certain level of risk, whether it is the transmission one of sexually transmitted diseases, emotional vulnerability, physical harm or social risk. There is no form of sex that is intrinsically safe or unsafe – comments Corrado – For example, cunnilingus carries the risk of transmitting STIs. But there is also the issue of how vulnerable someone feels during a sexual act: maybe a certain practice could trigger gender dysphoria, or let’s think about trust: how much can I trust the other on the confidentiality of what happens in intimacy, especially in the start of a relationship?

Safer sex is achieved through a combination of dialogue, contraception (if relevant) and barrier methods. To make the outercourse safer, it is necessary to adapt the protection to the act. For example, a condom will be effective (albeit not foolproof) in preventing pregnancy if used even while rubbing the penis between the partner’s buttocks or thighs. However, a condom will not protect against herpes, for example, as this STD spreads through skin-to-skin contact.

Likewise, to reduce the risk of transmitting sexually transmitted diseases, you must use a condom or dental dam on any occasion where there is a risk that vaginal fluid or semen could touch your partner’s genitals or mouth».

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