She divorced her dying husband – ‘She was wallowing in self-pity’

Being married to a person who daily is immersed in his sorrow is not easy. But, for some reasons, we can show understanding.

A woman spoke about the reasons why she arrived at the scene to divorce her dying husbandsaying that his five-year battle with cancer strained their marriage, as he he was wallowing in self-pity.

Yana Fry, 40, married her late husband when she was 22 and dreamed of starting a family with him. But her dreams soon ended when her husband, then 37, was diagnosed with testicular cancer. “We really couldn’t think about our future,” Fry said. “How can you plan your future as a newlywed couple when you are fighting cancer?».

“In critical situations, people react in two ways,” he continued. “The first way is as, unfortunately, my husband did – to drown in self-pity. The second way is, instead of sitting around feeling sorry for themselves, to engage with those around them».

Fry, who lived in New York with her husband, said that no one asked her about how she was doing during the difficult period. “We saw different kinds of doctors. Not a single person ever offered me help,” he complained. “They never asked, ‘Do you need support? Are you in a counseling group?”

Fry’s husband was continuing treatment for his cancer, but the disease worsened. “I was hoping everything would go well with my ex-husband’s cancer, but then years passed and I began to lose hope“, he remembers. “Five years lasted all the treatments. The dynamics of our relationship began to change.”

“It wasn’t until fifth year that I started thinking about leaving,” he continued. “But I felt like I couldn’t say anything. When someone dies next to you, you feel like you can’t talk about your own joybecause you compare it to his pain.”

The fact that shook her

Finally, Fry says that she was driven to leave her sick husband after a friend committed suicide. “It was my first funeral and it was very shocking,” Fry explained of her friend’s unexpected suicide. “In my mind at that moment, suicide became an option, although I had never thought about it before. I was in such a bad state. It was very clear to me that if I didn’t save myself, I would probably die”he said dramatically.

Fry then testified divorce application by her husband, leaving him embarrassed. “His main concern was always himself,” she said. “At the beginning of his treatment, he was still controlling me. But he felt even more sorry for himself because of the divorce». “I can’t say that he was particularly supportive,” she even admitted about her decision to end their marriage.

Then according to nypost.comFry says she and her husband stopped talking. He remarried, but two years later he died. “I actually found out on Facebook that he passed away. There was a picture of him from a mutual friend and it read: “Rest in peace.” My first reaction was: “You’ve got to be kidding me. Someone would have called me and told me.” But no one did,” he added sadly.