Voice, we all have one. Or at least we should. Voice as a sound produced by the phonetic apparatus of the human body, or understood as having something to say. Combining the two elements, seasoning them with a nice stamp, could be a guarantee of seduction?
Certainly, the voice in recent years, in conjunction with the pandemic, has risen to the fore: being locked in the house during the various lockdowns and not being able to have contact with other people, the only way to communicate was through chat and voice . Just last year, in the spring, it took over Clubhousethe social of the voice, in which anyone could have rooms, in which to discuss any topic in front of an audience, only through their own voice, without giving themselves a face, if not the profile photo.
The voice can be identification, remembrance, anchoring, belonging: how many times do we get blown away if we don’t find our favorite speaker on the radio in the morning? Or if they change the voice actor to our favorite actor? Or how many times have we “fallen in love” with someone just by listening to their voice?
The voice can tell a lot about a person, especially in relational field. In fact, some studies on couple psychology show that a person’s physical attractiveness increases if they have a pleasant tone of voice (Gross and Crofton, 1977). But it is since the time of Orpheus that the voice has assumed a fundamental role in two-way relationships: it is a means capable of touching the soul of those who listen.
Precisely for this the dating app Meetic he listened and listened to all those singles who they dream of falling madly in love (and they are 74%, according to data from the Love Perception Survey of November 2021): now, with the new feature Voice, the chances that the dream will come true increase dramatically. Born with the aim of «shortening distances and bringing hearts closer and closer», from the very beginning it offers the possibility to go beyond appearances, and literally, beyond photos.
The mechanism is simple: every single person can register a audio message lasting up to 30 seconds, just like a normal voice note, to add to your profile. The audio can then be changed at any time, in line with one’s moods, experiences and fantasies. On the other hand, the voice reflects the emotions with the same fidelity and precision of the movements of the lips, eyes and eyebrows. As a result, it has the same appeal, if not higher, and goes far beyond any description or photo.
Voice as an instrument of seduction, so. But behold, when can a female voice be called sexy? And how to make your voice more seductive, without falling into fiction? We talked about it with a professional in the sector: Benedetta Degli InnocentiItalian voice actress who has won several awards for dubbing, as well as being the voice of, among others Daisy Ridley for the saga of Star Wars, Lady Gaga in A Star Is Born And House of Gucci And Zoe Kravitz for the saga Divergent.
«Let’s start immediately with a general distinction: usually, one soft voice communicates calmly, while too loud a voice it perceives itself as dominant and intrusive or a monotone voice like a boring one. In general, in my personal opinion, a voice becomes pleasant, regardless of the timbre, if there is a thought behind it: logical, ironic, personal. Having something to say makes all the difference, always ».
Especially in the case of women, what are the elements that affect the voice and that can make it more or less pleasant, therefore also sexy?
«Especially in the area of ​​dating, the nervousness or theperformance anxiety: the first vowels, the first approaches betray a higher-pitched voice, more jarring, more heady, they say in my profession. The tension leads us to raise the tone of the voice by a few octaves, unconsciously. Most people admit that listening to those vowels (or their own vowels in general) can’t stand their tone of voice. The rubber stamp, then, which is their own vocal imprint, the quality of their voice: there are those who have it more Argentine, those who have it more profound. Me too’age plays an important role on the voice: we women too reach a biological vocal maturity, but the dough of the voice can change over time also based on the experiences we have in life. Finally, it is crucial to use the diaphragm: those who work on breathing – because they do yoga or because they live with their voice – are aware that taking advantage of the lung and diaphragmatic capacity allows them to have a deeper and more calibrated voice. And this helps in seduction, because it communicates self-confidence “.
Here, let’s assume that we have to send a vowel to our flirt or have to go on a first date … In short, having to make the other hear our voice. Can you suggest some exercises to do to “warm it up”?
“First of all, I would loosen the joints of the jawwhich we voice actors do punctually before entering the recording studio: therefore, open and close your mouth for at least a minute, then recite some tongue twisters.
Then, try to speak as if you had someone in front of you, someone you know though, not someone unknown: this should help you relax and let the truth shine through in your intonation. I know that nervousness will lead to talking on a machine and screaming.
But here comes the diaphragm, with the diaphragmatic breathing. Knowing how to use the diaphragm can also mean having a warmer voice, without forcing your hand too much, so as not to be a soap opera voice. How do you know if you are using the diaphragm? You can start by lying on your stomach: put one hand on your stomach and one on your chest. You must breathe so that when the hand on the abdomen is raised, the hand on the chest remains stationary and vice versa, in the path of exhalation. This allows the diaphragm to contract, along with the intercostal muscles, thus allowing it to enter correctly from the lungs. Once you have acquired this breathing, you are able to “automate” it and breathe in a natural way. This also helps to relaxwhich is not bad.
Finally, as I said before, having something to say is essential: in the case of Meetic and the Voice feature, the app suggests some questions to immediately break any delay: the ideal weekend, a line from your favorite movie, the most surprising thing done for love … In any case, always be yourself: you will never go wrong“.
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Source: Vanity Fair
