The rules of attraction, because airports make sparks (emotional and sexual)

Who has seen Love Actually Remember it well: If there is a place where love seems to gather in all its strength, it is the airport. In that crowded limbo between departures and arrivals, they consume, hugs are tightened, last minute statements chase each other. Also the most recent film The statistical probability of love at first sight This is demonstrated: two strangers cross lined up in the gate, and from there begins a story that does not need to take off immediately to be intense.

But what makes the airports so electric from an emotional and sexual point of view? The answer, apparently, is A set of psychological and environmental elements that make these places full of a unique tension. Two experts on the subject have talked about it: the doctor Chana Bromleycoach specialized in relationships, and the doctor Candice Nicole Hargons, Psychologist and sexologist. Their points of view are published on Pop Sugar.

In conclusion, The airport is one of the few places where you feel authentically out of your character. We are no longer the professional, the mother, the student. We are bodies with suitcases and tickets in hand. And in that short time, inside a place that is neither origin nor destination, We can afford to be only that: someone waiting. Someone traveling. Maybe towards another, perhaps within himself.

For this reason the airports work so well in the movies: they are already full of meaning without anyone having to add anything. But it also happens in true life. It happens because, as Bromley and Hargons say, The idea of what could happen is often more intense than that really happens. Yet, sometimes, that is enough. A shared possibility, even if only for a few moments, can make us feel alive as it has not happened for months. Here’s what we discovered.

The airport as “Middle -earth”

Airports are limited places, that is, areas where the usual rules are suspended: for this reason, when they are surrounded by strangers in a state of transition, people tend to feel more alive.

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Airports are neither home nor destination: they are passing spaces. In psychology, they are defined eliminal places, That is, areas where the usual rules are suspended. «The airports put us in motion – emotionally, physically and mentally – e When you are surrounded by strangers in a state of transition, people tend to feel more lively»Explains Bromley. People are not simply people, but travelers outside the routine, waiting for something, emotionally open. And precisely in this temporal suspension an unaware availability of the connection is created.

Tired bodies, live emotions

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Traveling is physically stressful: suitcases, queues, checks, time zones. Yet paradoxically, this tiredness makes us more emotionally permeable.

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Traveling is physically stressful: suitcases, queues, checks, time zones. Yet paradoxically, This tiredness makes us more emotionally permeable. The defenses lower, human contact – a smile, a conversation at the terminal bar – can become surprisingly intense. It is the perfect ground for a sudden romantic or sexual tension. “The sexual tension – adds Bromley – is that magnetic force that you feel, but that you cannot actually act, and that leaves your mind full of possibilities”. In other words, It is the desire that arises not so much from need, but from fantasy: from everything that could happen, but does not happen (again).

Film drama, in real life

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At airports there is a constant drama: farewells, returns, expectations and hopes. It is easy to imagine a Hollywood ending at every gate. According to Popsugar’s article, This amplified climate increases the desire and the possibility of flirtation: It is as if the emotional scenography pushed the protagonists (i.e. us) to live something intense, even for a moment. «In a low risk context like this, People feel more free to risk, because it is unlikely that they see each other», Comments Hargons. This sense of anonymity and impermanence dissolves inhibitionsstimulates the conversation and makes it more likely that we let yourself go in a contact, even just mental or visual, which would not have been sought elsewhere.

We do not underestimate the chemistry

Sudden an atventration can also have very simple biological bases, part of the sexual tension can be ...

A sudden attraction can also have very simple biological bases: part of the sexual tension can be linked to an unconscious attraction for the pheromons of the other.

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A sudden attraction can also have very simple biological bases: “Part of the sexual tension can be linked to an unconscious attraction for the pheromons of the otherHargons says. In a nutshell: sometimes we hear something without knowing where it comes from, e We just need to be close to perceiving it.

The weather is short (and for this precious)

At the Latction airport it can become more sincere because it does not have time to become complicated.

At the airport, the attraction can become more sincere, because it does not have time to become complicated.

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Often you meet someone already knowing that you only have a few hours or minutes together. This makes everything more urgent, more vivid, more true. We speak without filters, you really look at each other. The attraction can become more sincere, because it does not have time to become complicated.

Traveling is desire

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Have you ever heard of “erroneous attribution of excitement”? The agitation of the journey – whether it is stress, fear of flight, or excitement for the goal – can be interpreted by the brain as an attraction for the person next to us.

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The airport is also a symbol of desire itself: of change, adventure, escape. When two people meet in that context, they are not just looking for someone: they are looking for a new version of themselves. The other becomes the mirror of a possibility. To all this is added a curious psychological factor, known as “Erroneous attribution of excitement”: the agitation of the journey – May it be stress, fear of flight, or excitement for the goal – It can be interpreted by the brain as an attraction for the person next to us. As if that accelerated beat needed a face to fix on. And in an airport, where everything is already symbolic, that face can become a story.

Source: Vanity Fair

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