The “superb” by Giorgia Soleri

Said and done. The long love story with Damiano is overfrontman of Måneskin, Giorgia Soleri she certainly wasn’t left to despair in a corner. On the contrary. After surprising her 770 thousand followers – and not only – by revealing months ago the opening of a profile on Bumblethe dating app where women take the first step, the activist and influencer has worked as always on very different fronts: she signed a make-up line (Neonude Mulac), launched a series of women’s podcasts («Fireproof – The witches of the 21st century» together with Federica Fabrizio, on Storytel), he continued to fight – last year also in Parliament – so that vulvodynia and endometriosis are recognized as chronic and disabling diseases.
He is the face of Generation Z: committed but without snobbery, in the streets last November 25th against women’s violence but also the face of brands that focus on women. «After noticing my choice of online dating, Bumble contacted me to propose a collaboration: I’m happy because it was born in the wake of a spontaneous step on my part» she says. “And I’m happy that they had this idea, that there are women ready not to wait for the first move.” The result is «The Sleepover Club», a series of reels on Instagram where Giorgia appears in a «pajama party» version together with two friends, between intimate confidences about the «superb man» she has approached and reflections on how to manage communication, and other episodes of the format are coming. It’s just the latest activity of the 27-year-old from Milan who defines herself as a “feminist killjoy” and in reality she keeps coming up with events: after starting out as a model, in 2022 she wrote a book of poems (Miss nobody, and. Vallardi) and this year participated in Beijing Expressthe Sky reality show.

Is spending on different fronts your philosophy or are you still looking for the right path?
«Curiosity pushes me to experiment. My mother raised me to say, “Always try. Never say you don’t like something regardless.” I tend to struggle with change but since I was a child I have had to adapt.”

What kind of childhood did you have?
«My parents separated when I was only four years old, but then they both remarried. My mother with a man who has 3 other children and had another with her, my father with a woman with whom he had a son. This gave me a positive idea about relationships, it made me realize that there is a second chance in romantic life. This is why today I like the idea of ​​deconstructing taboos: why not open up to new encounters using apps too?”.

Do you believe in marriage?
«I don’t believe in it as an institution but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t get married. It is a way to protect the couple and their children: therefore I understand those who get married and also those who choose not to. I am very happy with my extended family. As an only child that I was, at 8 years old I found myself with uncles, cousins, with a lot of brothers and sisters.”

Was she also jealous?
“Never been: luckily it’s a feeling that doesn’t belong to me.”

Not even in a couple’s relationship?
«Very little. Or rather, I worked on it a lot with psychotherapy, which I have been doing for years. Today I am aware that a relationship must be based on trust: if there is jealousy it means that something is wrong, that you have an underlying personal insecurity or that you are not convinced of your partner. So it’s better to focus on the problem rather than on an unconstructive feeling.”

She was very open about her feelings, she also spoke on social media about the breakup with Damiano. Isn’t it difficult to share part of your most intimate life?
«It’s not always easy and I only do it when I think it’s worth it. I try to make it clear that my life is not as perfect as it might seem from Instagram, as often happens. But I strongly believe in the power of sharing, in talking, and the positive sides are many more than the negative ones. For example, when other girls tell me that, thanks to me, they too have had a diagnosis. I myself, who started feeling ill at 14 and for a long time it wasn’t clear what I had, got a diagnosis and a cure after having scoured online and found people with the same symptoms as me. And then online you discover people, even very different ones, with whom a great friendship can be born. I met the girls I date in person the most today online. ».

For example?
«My best friend, Federica: when I moved to Rome, I didn’t know anyone and, since we messaged each other on Instagram, one day we decided to meet. I found another, Marina, in a group of chronically ill people. I could say that my entire “offline” life was born from social media. I have a tattoo with two hands shaking and the words “together” to say how being with others is the center of my life.”

Of all your activities – books, podcasts, TV programs, collaborations like the one with Bumble – is there one that you also see projected into your future?
“Write. My mother gave me a passion for words and a love of reading. I was a very lively child and I couldn’t stay calm in front of the TV, so she created a game, “rhyme”, which we played for hours: she said a word and I had to respond in rhyme. When I was 16 she got sick and since then she has fought cancer three times: I wanted very much, also for her, to publish my book of poems, Miss nobody».

Are you writing any more?
«I always write for myself but having a project is another thing. I would like to publish another book, this time not of poems.”

She too was very touched by the case of Giulia Caccettin and took to the streets for it. Is gender violence a topic you would like to address?
«It’s a very hot topic, for me, rooted in patriarchal culture and, among other things, after Giulia’s case there have already been others. It won’t change until men try to change, to give up their privilege, so we have to keep talking and fighting.”

Speaking of men, are you ready to share a new relationship on social media?
«When there will be, why not? When you fall in love you want to tell the world but I will share it on social media only when I am sure it is a stable story.”