“I’m gay and I want to become a father, I can’t do it here. I have the same duties, but in this country I don’t have the same rights as everyone else”. Tommaso Zorzi in the aftermath of the stop imposed by the government on the Municipality of Milan to the registrations of the children of same-parent couples, he didn’t think about it for a moment. He took the phone in his hand and visibly excited pointed it at her face: “I have to pass in front of a kindergarten, watch the straight people take their children to school and say:” I will never be able to do that stuff there ”. Put like this it’s a bit tragic, but that’s how it is. Do you realize?». The host and influencer, 27 years old, judge of the latest edition of Drag Race Italy, a few days later he decided to take to the streets together with 10,000 other people to defend that right and support the rainbow families. We met him in Milan, in Piazza della Scala. «It’s always nice to see people talked about on social media live», he explains, «even if when you meet same-parent families you feel stupid for having had to try to normalize these families in front of others. There shouldn’t be anything to normalize.”
In your opinion, what should the right to be parents guarantee?
“The right to be parents should be guaranteed to both couples, regardless of sexual orientation, and singles. It seems civil to me that once suitability has been guaranteed, also with regard to adoption, anyone can become a parent. When I hear that a child needs a mom and a dad my arms fall, also because it’s not true. All studies say that the children of rainbow families are no different than the others. My outburst was meant to be a request for love».
Do you already feel the desire to be a father?
“I’m young, but I know that one day I will want to be a father. Knowing that I can’t in this country throws me into turmoil. But even if I didn’t want to become a parent, I would still defend this right. Every time one addresses this issue one immediately thinks of gestation for others, for example I’d like to adopt and the arguments that prevent a gay couple or a single from doing so are really weak. And also with regard to gestation for others, today the wrong message is passing. As the slogan used to be that “communists eat children”, now it is that “gays buy them”. An absurd message, both because gestation for others, regulated and legal in many other countries, is absolutely not this, and because today it is mainly heterosexual couples who resort to it».
Which parent do you imagine?
«Severe, like mine. No, thinking about it, mine have never been strict, I’d say they have been demanding. They cared above all about the scholastic part, doing badly in school was never an option ».
A year ago you said that “the battle for rights begins by responding to the offenses”, do you still think so?
«Yes, even if on some issues the hatred is really exaggerated and exasperating. It also happens to me that they yell at me in the street, just because I said that one day I would like a child. To a barren woman who would like to become a mother, no one would rightly dare to go against it. When violence becomes so strong it scares me.
What do you wish for the future?
«I hope that those in the position of having to decide on such delicate issues rely on real psychological and sociological studies and not let themselves be guided by prejudice and ignorance. I hope that we do not continue with the creation of two opposing factions that do not communicate also because children are involved and it should never be like this ».
From the days of your coming out to today, do you think that much progress has been made in the field of civil rights?
“I’d say we’re going nowhere. Of course, today there is a law that regulates civil unions even between homosexuals, but it is as if it were a sop. This is not a real wedding. I think it is a first step, but I look forward to many more».
What do you think is needed more?
«There is a need for tolerance, which is the most important lesson I received from my parents. Tolerance holds inclusion, respect. I grew up without prejudices and every time I encountered something new I always experienced it as if it were enrichment and never foreclosure».
Source: Vanity Fair
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