What happens to a couple in crisis when it goes on vacation?

The word holiday derives from the Latin, vacanspresent participle of the verb vaccate, which means to be empty, evokes the idea of ​​a period of free time from commitments, duties and habits, a pleasant void that allows you to devote oneself to rest and what we like most.

But what happens to couples in crisis on vacation?

Three scenarios.

First scenario.

The couple who believe that moving to another place can miraculously solve things. Orazio already launched a warning to these couples when he said that “It is not changing sky that changes soul“.
One thing is to move, another is traveling. The journey, in fact, means disorientation and requires merged with what we meet along the way, it means getting lost to find ourselves.
This couple, on the other hand, claims that the price of happiness and reconciliation is only that of the petrol necessary to achieve this or that other destination.

Second scenario.

The couple who, despite the certainty of the inseccesso, starts anyway. There are many reasons for this choice: the difficulty of facing other costs, the sense of guilt, the fear of disappointing the children who have been waiting for a holiday scheduled for some time, the fear of dealing with the reaction of the partner, friends or families of origin, the awareness of not yet being ready to face the “journey” alone. There are also those who are the victim of the emotional blackmail of the other parent, who do not allow the partner to leave alone with their children before the separation is made official.

The departure appears inescapable, it seems that it is too late to hold back, but often the risks are not evaluated. In fact, a small misunderstanding or a bad tone of voice interpreted to trigger an escalation of claims to dispert by the common memory of the couple.

When love ends everything else, it becomes unbearable to us, how he eats, how he breathes and even the sound of his voice. The scene of the film Miss Marx is emblematic in which the protagonist, observing her husband, shed a soup, realizes how repulsive the only to bring the spoon to the mouth is.

Third scenario.

The couple who fights with all his strength so that everything really changes. There is love, but excessive individualism or storms of life risk making the relationship shipwreck.

The holiday is then lived as the time to create, to transform feeling, to seek the other beyond themselves, traveling new roads. The members of this couple have dedicated themselves with commitment and sacrifice to work, children and the family, forgetting for too long what has pushed them to join.

This couple must necessarily find intimacy, that magical place in which each one is naked in front of the other and can again fall in love, giving life to that crazy part of himself that only the other can generate.

We must erase from our minds the idea that time can heal the wounds or the torpor of marriage life, only the action can transform the context into a place where kisses, caresses, intimacy can be born again. An action that, as the philosopher Umberto Galimberti teaches us, “does not ignore the happiness of passion and perhaps not even his unrulyness, but does not be satisfied with passive happiness, because he wants to create“.

Then there is a fourth couple, that of those who leave themselves before leaving chasing a new love. But you know, summer loves last the time of a holiday and September you will have to deal with real life.

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