Why 2020 was the year of lost sex (and how to recover eros from now on)

Nothing sex with the pandemic. Well yes, in times of Coronavirus me too’eros was infected. Causing, in the intimate sphere of many couples, a real setback. To signal a sharp and widespread decreased libido is a recent research promoted by Durex, as part of the campaign Safe is the New Normal. On the basis of this study – conducted on a sample of 500 Italians between 16 and 55 years – the83% of respondents experienced a decline in sexual desire and only a small one during the pandemic 23% he said he kept the same pre-Covid business between the sheets.

“Indeed,” he comments Laura Rivolta, psychotherapist and sexologist of Milano, “The arrival of the pandemic has radically rewritten people’s lives, inevitably impacting the sex. There were many factors that put a strain on theeros. To begin with, the fear and theanxiety compared to “what will happen”. Then, the lack of external stimuli, caused by always staying at home (especially for those who have started working in smart-working); there girl due to days that have become very repetitive between them; there tiring management of the new life inside house; the search for new balances (think of the couples who also had to deal with the DAD of their children); there heaviness caused by hearing about a pandemic all the time and everywhere … “

Any other sex killers?
«L’excessive proximity with partner. In normal times, couples alternate moments of closeness and distance, even if only for work reasons. In times of pandemics and smart-workinginstead, many have begun to spend all day and every day together. And when the other is always next to us, perhaps not even a meter away or at most in another room, we never miss (literally) during the day. Therefore, feeling the desire becomes more difficult. On the other hand, in couples separated by kilometers and kilometers, the pandemic has instead caused a excess distance. Those who have not been able to travel and see each other with the usual regularity have had to deal with one physicality all to be rediscovered. Many long-distance loves, therefore, have seen the degree of cool down due to the pandemic intimacy and of confidence with the body of the other.»

What is the very first advice to make 2021 the year of rediscovered sex?
“First of all gain awareness of this setback. It would be wrong to ignore or minimize. Eros is a fundamental aspect of existence: it is also living it fully sphere of intimacy that a person can feel good. A healthy sex life benefits ours energy platform. Forgetting (or underestimating) it can lead to gods imbalances, to lose the charge and to deal with less grit e vitality situations of everyday life. “

So, in practice, how to get out of the erotic lethargy brought about by 2020?
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