Why do good girls always fall in love with bad boys?

Girls of every generation listening: raise your hand if you too are or have been unrepentant Lexi Howard. Who she is is probably not to be explained to Gen Z and Millennials, probably a little less known by Gen X and Boomers. In any case, whatever the decade of belonging, how many of us find ourselves in the single, a bit nerd, who studies, reads, has healthy values, definitely in the norm to the limit of being boring who finds himself cooked to fantasize with the nose in the air on the outcast, the unruly bad boy with demons in the past? Lexi Howard is all of us waving our arms up recognizing ourselves in the description. Lexi Howard is the latest good screen heroine to fall into temptation for the derelict of the moment. Among the protagonists of the cult TV series of the moment, Euphoria (with Zendaya, now on Sky in the second season), she is the one who was in a corner in the first chapter and then reclaims her space with the interests in the second.

Anyone who has seen the show has certainly been blown away by the sudden rapprochement between her and Fezco, the pusher with a soft heart, despite everything. On the Net the hashtag #Fexi has become a trend topic on Twitter and the reason is clear: there is nothing more identifiable than the damn boy / good girl couple. But how come? «What is different from us attracts us, often the good girl, sometimes nerd, is attracted to those parts that she would like to have but that she does not have or cannot express. Through the bad boy she experiences those strong emotions that make her feel alive and important because she has managed to have the attentions of the beautiful and damned boy. Very often, good girls identify the bad boy with the father figure and authoritarian that they had in childhood and from which, inevitably, with adulthood it is necessary to move away. The bad boy overlaps (in part) with the figure of the strict father to which the girls are used and who makes them feel safe, protected, guided », says psychologist and psychotherapist Gabriella D Cosmo.

That the beautiful and damned, after all, is absolutely irresistible the forty-year-olds know it from the days of Brenda and Dylan of Beverly Hills 90210the fifties from the time of Danny and Sandy in Grease. All from the days of Candy Candy: “The bad boy has a magnetic appeal because he represents the most classic model of masculinity invested with erotic qualities, he is seen as, untouchable, steadfast, secure in his beliefs and attitudes. For example, in the period of adolescence, during which all the certainties of childhood collapse and young people are called to rebuild their identity, girls tend to fall in love with a solid male model, which can represent a bit of an anchor of salvation in a world that has suddenly turned into an uncertain and fearful place. In any case, being attracted to a bad boy can happen to very young women, but also to adult women “, underlines the expert.

Because the outcast, at least that of films and TV series, despite being an outcast, is still capable of a depth that makes you forget the amount of problems that he brings with him, moreover “the good girl / bad boy couple is about understanding what you really want in a relationship. This kind of union can be an enrichment for both of you and it helps to understand that one
relationship can be based on mutual love and respect and not just on emotional fluctuations. To the
bad guys like good girls because they savor a life different from theirs, more
quiet, keeping that side a little cursed, the same way the good girl learns
to transgress and feel a little bad simply by dating a bad boy. This kind of
relationship could make both of you understand how you really are, so it represents
an opportunity to discover new sides of yourself. Good girls appreciate bad boys, simply because they are often good boys too, many times they can
to be just an armor, a defense against personal or family experiences that do so
led to behave and show themselves in this way », concludes Di Cosmo.

If you go back in time, remembering your ferocious crush on the cursed one, keep dreaming and making your heart beat. in the gallery where we have collected the most famous good girl / bad boy couples from the big and small screen.

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