Why it is important to go to therapy

Good half of the people I know and my family members go or have gone to therapy: it is a step that everyone takes before or after *, and it is very important that this happens.

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A necessary premise: going to the psychologist is a totally personal and subjective choice. Each person recognizes when and how to request external help, but the path and personal experience vary depending on a thousand factors (age, context, background, etc.). Something I didn’t even know the first time I went to therapy is that asking for help doesn’t mean entrusting my problems to a * stranger *. No one * enjoys a magic wand that suddenly solves all our problems, and the truth is that much of the work in therapy depends on us.

What happens during a session? We talk, a lot or in some cases not at all. In my case, the more I talk, the more I throw out everything that goes through my head and the session is profitable. On the contrary, I know people who, during some sessions, were unable to utter a half word. They followed a different path, precisely because, as we said, there is no single form of therapy and it changes from person to person. In fact, not necessarily every psychologist is right for you: before a doctor or a female doctor has another person in front of us.

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Everyone * follows a different approach and method and not necessarily all match your personality and your needs. It is also possible to change more than one * psycholog * if we feel that those people are not communicating with us as we want or need. But beyond compatibility, I discovered that a * psychologist * does not provide advice (or rather it can, but that is not the point of therapy, the advice we could also receive from our friends) and it is not even exclusively an outlet. A * psychologist * works to improve our ability to understand ourselves, helping us first of all to formulate the right questions in ourselves before you give us the answers. By asking the right question, it will be even more natural for us to try to answer our difficulties.

It is an experience that can be more or less heavy depending on the case, but also incredibly cathartic and liberating because we can understand ourselves better in relation to ourselves and the people around us. Also the duration of therapy varies from person to personbe it two years or a week. Each * follows a different path and rhythms, but it is not a race and whoever arrives first * does not win. Also because no longer going to the * psychologist * does not mean that our problems are completely erased and we are “perfect, impeccable” people: on the contrary, if the path has proved to be really effective, we may have acquired the right tools to ask ourselves those questions necessary and orient ourselves alone, without that external help.

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Once the path is over, it is not excluded that the problems may return, that we could find ourselves in difficulty again and return for new sessions. In conclusion, going to therapy or not is not an obligation but a necessity that we can feel sooner or later in our life.

It is not a sign of weakness, there is nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed about, but it is a way of taking care of our mental health, which deserves space and listening like everything else.