Women In Male Dominated Fields: the new TikTok trend in which women make fun of men’s toxic behavior (and appropriate it)

Women In Male Dominated Fields it’s the new trend that is becoming popular on **TikTok. **But what is it? Usually for «fields traditionally dominated by men» this means, for example, those in STEM disciplines. This time, on the platform most loved by gen z, the field that is brought into play is that of dating.

Millions of users, from all over the world, publish ironic (but not too much) clips in which they write toxic phrases that they have heard from men or talk about attitudes that they have found themselves having to face in their situationship or relationships. Then, they pretend to be “students who surpass their teachers”, appropriating the behavior, to denounce and protect each other, complete with hashtags #WomenInMaleDominatedFields.

For example, a girl talks about her experience, reversing the points of view: «He was crying in bed so I said annoyed to him “here we go, here we go again”, I turned over and fell asleep». It is clear, therefore, that he is passing off as his own cruel behavior that he has suffered first hand. His experience, judging by the comments, does not appear to be original. Indeed, many admit that they have found themselves in the same situation with their partner.

Another girl writes: «When he sends me several messages in a row, explaining what’s wrong, but I only reply to the last one, the least important one». In the comments there are those who write: “But did we all go out with the same boy?”.

«I went on a date with a guy who told me he was bisexual. He asked me if it was ok for me. I replied: “Of course, as long as I can watch”».

Even in this case, many bisexual girls intervened saying: “So… is it a universal experience that they ask us this inappropriate, random thing?”.

And then again: «I viewed his message without writing to him for a week. Then I responded to his story by writing: “Where are you going dressed like that, without me?”». Other girls reply: «I will adopt this technique too, every now and then we have to match their energy!».

Even on the sexual sphere, the women of the platform would have something to say: “He told me he was about to orgasm, so I stopped.”

Then a classic, a jab at the wounded male ego: “I called him ugly and told him I didn’t want him anyway, right after he rejected me.”

One woman racked up nearly 9 million views, writing: «When he asks me: “What are we?” I reply: “Why do we have to label the thing?”».

The trend is intended to be ironic and fun but also makes us reflect on a series of repeated, widespread and worrying attitudes in that battlefield which is the dating today, in which ghosting, gaslightingbetrayals, poor empathy and lack of healthy and effective communication they are the order of the day.

The intent is not to push victims to become executioners, fueling a toxic loop that should be eradicated and avoided, but to bring light to certain dynamics in order to be able to recognize them and, in the meantime, exorcise the traumas of the past with a collective therapeutic laughter.

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