Being an adult: the things I’ve learned

When I was little, I believed that adult life would be cool and I imagined myself in the future as independent, very cool, with a sparkling career, lots of money, a home – a loft in the center or a cottage in the country.on this point I could not make up my mind – and maybe a dog.

Now that I am (almost) thirty years old, I realize how naive this conception of the world of the “grown-ups” that you have as teenagers.

To begin with, being an adult doesn’t mean you can always do what you want. Of course, the freedoms increase: you are no longer forced to study subjects you don’t give a damn about; your family has stopped telling you what you can and what you cannot do; you live alone and, if you like, you can order pizza for a week in a row. Great, isn’t it? At the same time, responsibilities and duties increase, towards others and also towards yourself.

About this, the life of the grown-ups is full of hassles. Overflowing. Overflowing. Saturated.

There is the shopping to do, the stamp duty to pay, the house to tidy up, the clothes to be ironed. There are business meetings you have to attend, even if you’d rather hit yourself on the head with a spiked sledgehammer, repeatedly..

And then there are the meals to cook and the dishes to wash, every day, several times a day. Why does no one warn you that, when you get older, you spend most of your time preparing your own food and cleaning up what you have messed up to do it?

And let’s not forget the real plague: the rent and the bills to pay, and the bills to make so as not to find yourself living on bread and onions until your next salary. Other than a dizzying bank account, other than a loft in the center or a villa in the countryside.

In short, in some moments even math questions and quarrels with parents about going to that or that party are regretted and reassessedwhich looked like Greek tragedies but weren’t that bad.

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Being an adult does not even mean being a resolute person, 100% realized in personal life and at work, perfectly aware of their place in the world and free of any hesitation.

Even at thirty, as it happened at fifteen and as it probably will happen at forty and seventy, you change your mind, you have doubts and uncertaintiesthey question their choices.

In short, we get by, often not feeling up to par, always trying to do our best and hoping, in the end, to get away with it.

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