Single Day is bullshit because math doesn’t apply to relationships

As a human being who spent practically ¾ of his life single, I have experienced not having a partner in many ways. Sometimes feeling sad because I wanted to share moments in my life with someone special, other times feeling free to explore myself without compromise. There are times when it weighed heavily on me, others when I didn’t care. But never once have I experienced singleness as a condemnation to eternal loneliness, a condition that separated me from the rest of the world as if I were locked in a bubble of isolation that only great love can burst to finally make me part of the world.

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This is why it really freaks me out that they have decided to set up the Single Day, which in itself is stupid (what exactly am I celebrating? Sorry but I don’t get the point), 11/11, or a day made up of 1s in a row, or how those geniuses who invented it see us: 1s, lonely and in a row waiting for their turn to get engaged and then to become 2.

I’m sorry, what??

I will not be here trying to convince you that the only true love you should aim for is that for yourself, because so many women have done it before and better than me and really: why you should believe me if you don’t believe Ariana Grande ? But one thing I feel like saying, to you and to those who have chosen November 11 for this idiotic party: single does not mean alone. And if you think you are applying the laws of mathematics to human relationships, well, you are wrong across the board.

Yes why relationships are not arithmetic and here the laws we learned in school don’t work: we are all number 1 and we remain whatever the type of equation, simple or complex, we go into. For which being in a pair does not mean turning into a 2, but being part of an unusual operation where 1 + 1 always results in 1 + 1.

We are whole beings, and our status as 1 does not change. We are not waiting to become 2 as soon as we find our +1, or of the 3 when we will have, if we wish, a child, because that child will be another one who is added to the 1 + 1 of our couple. AND we are never a 1 without a +, because next to us there are our friends, our family, our colleagues, the people around us and with whom we may not have a relationship in the romantic sense of the term, but we do have a human relationship.

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So marketing geniuses, do us a favor: abolish singles day. Or at least give it back the meaning it should have, even in the most poetic meaning of the English word single. Which means yes not married, but also distinct from the crowd. That is, unique. As we all are.