A young man pair of Britons has drawn attention on social media for sharing details about the relationship them, in the hope of dispelling the rumors surrounding her disability and sex. George Dowell, who is quadriplegicand his girlfriend, Jessikah Lopez, met in the British dating show “Undateables” in 2018. Now, they’re fighting the stigma against people who live with disability.
The couple revealed how they developed the skillof healthy communication to satisfy his wants and needs and that he lives one “normal and healthy life”. Dowell, suffered a spinal injury when the car overturned in 2010 and has had “limited limb function” ever since. “I was the passenger in the front seat and I was wearing my seat belt. There were others sitting in the back of the car,” Dowell told Jam Press. “The car overturned and landed in the field across the road. I was the only one with serious injuries”reported about the accident.
The 30-year-old said that after the accident, he didn’t date because he was worried about how people would react to him, as well as being rejected by women. “The appointment they are not so easy when you are in wheelchair, because people make assumptions about you or can’t see themselves around someone with a disability,” Dowell explained. “So often I worried about being rejected.”
Lopez, 29, had seen Dowell on a popular British dating show “I thought George was really cute and sweet, so I followed him on social media but I never talked to him,” Lopez recalled, reports the nypost.
It took two years before either of them could communicate with the other. “He texted me at Facebook regarding a story I posted,” Lopez said. “We talked and the rest is history. “A man whose wife has a disability has revealed the most absurd questions people ask him — including whether he ‘has a thing’ for people in wheelchairs. Stop asking questions about our sex lives. Our relationship is perfect—as evidenced by their first date that lasted nine hours».
“On our first date, I went over to his house, brought a lot of snacks, and we watched movies,” Lopez recalls. “I reached there at 12 p.m. and we didn’t leave until 9 p.m., we had so much to talk about and we got along really well,” he emphasized. However, as the 29-year-old admitted, she had no idea what a relationship with Dowell would look like.
“Before I met George, I always had a good boyfriend and I had long-term relationships”she explained, adding “I never imagined I’d be with someone who had a disability, but not because I wasn’t interested — I just I had never met one disabled person”.
Despite the unknown, their romance has blossomed like no other. On the first date with George she felt the butterflies in her stomach, the awkward conversations which everyone does,” Lopez said. “Obviously I had different questions to ask, but he never felt nervous, he was always so open and honest that I knew I could ask anything I needed, which made me feel so comfortable with him very quickly,” the girl said.
The couple said they’ve faced some challenges along their journey together, especially since Lopez is also Dowell’s caregiver. We became very close due to COVID and decided to let’s continue together”, Dowell said. “We were able to tell early on that we could live together very easily. The only adjustment I had to make was adjusting my care plan so Jessikah was my primary caregiver because I wanted to spend more time with her as our relationship progressed,” he continued.
The pair have since set up a joint account on Instagram with over 7,000 followers to share his dating experience as well as answer any questions, including those about his sex life.
“We have a normal and healthy sex life,” Lopez said. “It’s different of course, but nothing that can’t be overcome with good communication and cooperation each other to find out what works best, pretty much the same with any new partner.”
The sex it’s the least of their problems, the couple said, living in a society that wasn’t built for people with disabilities. “Most of the challenges in our relationship come from the outside world, as it’s not made for people with disabilities, so it can be difficult at times,” Lopez added. “Luckily we haven’t had to deal with any obstacles or negativity about our relationship, but we’d definitely defend it if we had.”
Source: News Beast
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